I don't even know where to start. I just need to know how I can be content on my own. I don't even want to be happy, just content.
I've a 6 week old baby by a physically and emotionally abusive ex. I have 3 other children (not his). Went NC with him when 5 months pregnant due to the constant cheating and abuse... such a long story.... now in a battle with him over contact.
Anyway, whilst in the relationship I was discouraged from contact with friends and family and lost the closeness with them to the point I barely see anyone any more. I'm really trying to regain it but feel like I'm pushing myself on people, so I don't force it. The only person I'm still close to is the father of my other children - he's the only one who knows everything that's gone on and I consider him my best friend... I know it's weird. Anyway, he is dating and will be introducing our children to his girlfriend this weekend. He deserves a good woman and not a nutcase like me. I know it means I can't be so close to him any more and we're going to have to stop doing stuff together.
I am in awe of his belief in love. I don't believe it exists. Or I am just not capable of it. But I am so lonely. I sound really selfish but all I do is stuff with the children. I know I need to learn to just be the best parent I can be and make that my focus. I feel so selfish to feel lonely when I'm surrounded by my wonderful children who love me and rely on me. I don't need another adult to love me, or for me to love do I? I can do this on my own can't I?
I just need to know how to let it go. Please.
(I don't expect an answer, just needed to say this out loud, so to speak. I know I sound pathetic and needy and probably make no sense at all)
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Love is a myth - how to let it go?
2sCompany · 23/06/2017 23:49
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