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How to go NC?

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Namechange2837 Fri 23-Jun-17 17:05:56

After some recent soul searching I've decided to go NC with my father. I won't go into the ins and outs but basically he was an awful and abusive parent and I haven't had a father - daughter relationship with him since I was about 10 (now 30).
He lives in another country so I only see him roughly every 3 years, however he has my contact number and occasionally gets in touch to feign interest in my life.
I have decided after speaking to DH that I want to go NC - even the minimum contact I have with him now causes me stress and anxiety, and I don't want him in mine or my children's life (expecting DC1 soon).
Now, I just don't know how to go about cutting contact. Do I just stop replying to messages etc? Do I just come out with it and tell him? I think it would upset him, and despite my feelings, I still don't want to hurt him. I feel pretty confused about how to go about something like this!
Thanks in advance for any advice.

AttilaTheMeerkat Fri 23-Jun-17 17:11:24

The above link may be useful to you.

He has never really given you any due consideration whatsoever so I would not worry at all about supposedly upsetting him. You have those feelings anyway because you are a kind person.

The "well we took you to Stately Homes" thread on these pages may well be helpful to you as well.

Namechange2837 Fri 23-Jun-17 17:12:35

Thanks Atilla ♥

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