My ex was emotionally abusive. This included coercion to get me in the bedroom. I used to do it to keep in his good books, because it was easier than hours of arguments.
He physically attacked me during our divorce.
Since, I can not imagine intimacy with a man, or just in fantasy as it is safe.
I have been drawn to women who are more in touch with their emotions, and I feel this results in a better intimacy.
I have been going out with a woman. Intimacy was mind blowing at first. Now she is more like my best friend. But I don't like her around my kids as she can be very short with them. Things have to be done her way and quickly, so I am questioning whether I should carry on.
Although I am out to my family and friends, I don't like being out with her and my friends or with my family. I am not out professionally and I am massively struggling with my internal homophobia.
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biqueen · 23/06/2017 15:02
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