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Devastated at unexpected news

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Whereismumhiding2 · 16/06/2017 22:30

Im sat out in my garden necking strong sweet tea trying to get mt head round terrible news. My sister who was diagnosed with cancer 6 weeks ago and has undergone a brutal op, has gone into ICU as it's spread so aggressively they've stopped all cancer treatment. She's in hospital miles away so I'm driving up tomorrow. It's all happened so fast and is such a shock. I can't tell my children til Sunday as I don't want them to be alone with this news (they're at their dad's from tomorrow overnight) til im back but she has very little time now. They thought I was being weird asking them to draw her a picture or to write more in her card.
I guess I'm just wanting to.talk as I'm so in denial and numb, I'm at a loss of what you do or say, except to go up there and hold her hand.
I've rung round all the relatives for.my parents and i didnt feel any of the words I was saying, like someone is going to tell me it's all a misunderstanding. Some of my friends are arranging to meet me at a friend's house who.lives near the hospital to keep me company in the evening (am.staying over so i can see her sunday too) . I guess

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Horsemad · 16/06/2017 22:34

I am sorry Sad

Flowers for you and your sister. Wishing you strength.

Ellisandra · 16/06/2017 22:34

I'm so sorry Flowers

Aquamarine1029 · 16/06/2017 22:34

I am so very sorry. This is just devastating and I'm sure you must be reeling. Allow yourself to feel as poorly and sad as you need to, but I fear the total impact of this won't really sink in for a while. Make sure you have support and be sure to talk to your family, friends and kids. It's good to share your grief and it's so detrimental to hold it in. Again, I am so sorry about your sister.

chinam · 16/06/2017 22:34

I'm so sorry. Cancer is a bastard. I'm glad you will get to be with your sister. Take care of yourself.

Lariflete · 16/06/2017 22:35

I'm so sorry, that's dreadful news Sad
Not got much to add, but just want to hold your hand Flowers

planesick · 16/06/2017 22:36

FlowersFlowersFlowers I am so sorry. I can't imagine your pain...but I didn't want to read and run...big hugs

TaggieRR · 16/06/2017 22:36

So sorry for your family Flowers

areyoubeingserviced · 16/06/2017 22:36

So sorry

BakedBeeeen · 16/06/2017 22:38

I'm so sorry xxx

MrsPeelyWaly · 16/06/2017 22:38

OP, this really is just to acknowledge your post and to say I'm so sorry for what you are all going through as a familiy.

Trickycat · 16/06/2017 22:40

So sorry. Be kind to yourself. Flowers

Misspilly88 · 16/06/2017 22:40

So sorry. I lost my mum to cancer a couple of weeks ago. Tell your sister how much you love her, tell her a million times and hold her hand. Sorry again. Xx

lorelairoryemily · 16/06/2017 22:41

I'm so sorry opFlowers

Eggandchipsfortea93 · 16/06/2017 22:42

I'm so sorry OP. Have a think if there's anything you could take her that might make things little bit more pleasant for her (a magazine she likes to read maybe?). I've always liked having a notebook when in hospital, for writing down thing I want to mention to visitors, and she might feel like writing privately about her feelings.So perhaps a nice wirebound notebook and a pen that can slot in the spine so it won't get lost or dropped?
I know 'stuff' doesn't fix things, but it might make her feel a tiny bit better...

TheHobbitMum · 16/06/2017 22:43

I'm so sorry to hear this, Cancer is a complete bastard Flowers

PiggyPlumPie · 16/06/2017 22:45

Hand holding here my love Flowers

ButtonMoonLoon · 16/06/2017 22:46

I'm so very sorry to hear this.
Praying for a miracle for her x

RubyRoseRing · 16/06/2017 22:49

I'm so sorry, where. I'll be thinking about you and your family.

Owlish · 16/06/2017 22:50

So sorry Flowers

mygrandchildrenrock · 16/06/2017 22:51

So sorry to hear this and thinking of you and your family. Flowers

cauliflowercheese14 · 16/06/2017 22:52

God I'm so sorry. Thinking of you. Be with her, she will already know how much you love her, but yes hold her hand.

honeyroar · 16/06/2017 22:53

I'm really sorry. I'm glad you've got people to stay with/lean on when you're there. Take care on the drive.

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ParadiseCity · 16/06/2017 22:53

I'm so sorry.

myrtleWilson · 16/06/2017 22:54

Am so sorry Flowers - two years ago my mother was diagnosed with cancer 8 weeks before her death and the speed of it was such a shock. I've just lost my sister to cancer this week too so I have some insight into the bewildering world you've been plunged into - I'll be around for a bit tonight so please do chat/offload/scream into the screen

purplecoathanger · 16/06/2017 22:54

I lost my sister to cancer, so I really feel for you Flowers

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