Guy casually dating reappearing out of the blue

[Needmorehours]

I met a man on a night out and we went on 3 dates and spoke regularly. As he is a very high earner I felt quite intimidated by him and didn't really get why he would want to talk to a public sector worker who is also a single Mum.

We were only dating very casually and he decided that we would be better as friends rather than anything else (after we slept together). I accepted this and moved on. He has contacted me a few times and I messaged back but did not pursue the conversation. His number is deleted and I am sure he is aware that it was not a friendship I was seeking so therefore move along.

So today I get a picture of his work schedule asking if anything looked strange in it. I looked and saw that he is going to an event 5 minutes from my home. So I said well that stands out. He replied he didn't know what it would be like. So I told him what I thought the event/activity would be and left it at that.

But seriously why bother to send me that. He isn't interested in me so why bother to contact me to tell me he will be around the corner. Why do some men do this? I feel as if he is looking for an ego boost or for me to say let's meet up.

This is totally a non issue but bugging me.

[gingeristhenewblack43]

He's looking for a booty call

[JK1773]

Yeah he's definitely after his leg over. Ignore him

[Bant]

I'd flirtily arrange to meet up for a shag, at somewhere slightly inconvenient for him, then half an hour after you don't show, message him and say you'd be better as friends. And then block him

[Angleshades]

He's definitely after a shag but doesn't want to look so obvious. He's letting you know where he'll be and on what night so that hopefully you'll ask him if he's up for popping round after. That way he has all the power as he can then say yay or nay to you. It's a total ego boost for him. Nothing more. Ignore him.

[Needmorehours]

Argh how annoying. When he broke things off I acted with grace and just said OK. He said he was worried I would be angry and we could talk about it more which I declined. Then he sent a picture of his face with a bloody inspirational caption underneath. The sex wasn't so amazing I would be going back for a second round tbh I was drunk so don't really remember it. But I totally own my actions I'm not embarrassed I just don't have time for someone who doesn't want to be with me. It's not a bad thing it's life but seriously move along. Oh and when he broke it off he said he still wants to talk to me and would like to meet my son. Which is totally not happening.

[Angleshades]

He sounds like a dick. He wants to keep his options open but not have a relationship with you hence the mixed signals. He'll get bored eventually if you ignore his calls and texts.

[Needmorehours]

The problem is he knew I really liked him and hadn't really dated since breaking up with my sons Dad. So why message to tell me you're around the corner.

[Needmorehours]

Yes it was two months of mixed signals. What a waste of time.

[Angleshades]

Op I've been through exactly the same thing. Luckily mine was a while ago now and I can see it for what it was. It really is annoying at the time though, a total headfuck. Dust yourself off and try your best to forget him. If you engage with him it will only prolong the misery.

What was the inspirational caption?

[Needmorehours]

The inspirational quote was something about ease being a threat to progress or something like that. It was over a picture of his face.

[SleightOfHand]

Block.

[Loopytiles]

Ignore.

[SweetLuck]

What does that even mean, what a twat!

[TheNaze73]

It's a booty call. He's letting you know he's available for an evening

[AndBandPlayedScotlandTheBrave]

Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship.

Does this mean that your disinterest is a hardship but he isn't giving up on progress, especially after you dtd and even though he walked? Or is it some of that newfangled negging? Quite the mind game, n'est pa?

He is baiting you. Leave it for the stinky bait that it is.

[MisterDog]

He's just in the area and wants sex. Nothing more I should imagine, he sounds like a user and since you said the sex was mediocre it is probably not even worth revisiting it for that.

[Angleshades]

Wow that doesn't sound like a nice thing to say at all. Sounds to me like he was dissing you for sleeping with him, almost like he ended it because you were too easy. That's how I'd read it anyway. Definitely block and ignore. Sounds like the guy I dated. He behaved exactly the same way after we finished. I ignored everything and thank god I'm now free of the weasel.

[Zoflorabore]

When is the event op? Is he giving you some notice to make plans with him do you think? I.e. That he visits you as he's "in the area" and wants to make sure you will be home.
Do you think he has had a change of heart?

[RedTitsMcGinty]

He sent you a motivational picture of his face???? Oh, sweet lord! You have had a lucky escape!

[Bant]

Sorry, I can't stop picturing this

[troodiedoo]

Haha he sounds funny. Silly man!

[Aquamarine1029]

He's only hoping you're ignorant or desperate enough to have sex with him. Block this creep.

[ijustwantfiveminutespeace]

Do you think he is maybe married and is taking the opportunity to see you when he has a business excuse to be away?

[troodiedoo]

Just re read your OP with fresh eyes. What a douche indeed.