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Anyone else craving a proposal?!

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Tippitoesandbuttonnose Mon 12-Jun-17 19:03:15

(Somewhat) lighthearted

One of my cousins has just sent round the text 'OH popped the question tonight, I said yes!'

All I want is to settle down but I know my OH would never think that the 2 years we've been together is long enough to proposehmm

Anyone else on MN dying for their OH to propose? I swear I'm not jealous wink

AlcoholandIrony Mon 12-Jun-17 19:09:58

I'm not dying for a proposal.

I would really just love it if everyone would stop asking when we're getting married. Or having babies. Or buying a house.

Tempted to tell them we're already married (we're not). halo

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Mon 12-Jun-17 19:10:40

How do you know your OH thinks that 2 years is too soon to propose? What do YOU think?

DarkFloodRises Mon 12-Jun-17 19:13:33

Feeling your pain OP - my DH took 5 years to propose! We've now been married for 13 years so it was worth the wait smile.

BuzzKillington Mon 12-Jun-17 19:15:57

Why don't you propose to him?

PuppyPickler Mon 12-Jun-17 19:18:51

Would you not think of proposing yourself? 21st century and all that!

AlcoholandIrony Mon 12-Jun-17 19:20:42

I think you need to have at least talked about the concept of marriage before a proposal is on the cards.

IWillCrushYouLikeABug Mon 12-Jun-17 19:22:51

if two adults want to get married wouldn't it make sense for them to discuss it together as adults?

Or just wait years and hope he plans on surprising you while not actually knowing if you want to get married? confused

littlemissM92 Mon 12-Jun-17 19:31:03

Yes !! I'm with you op

Tippitoesandbuttonnose Mon 12-Jun-17 19:33:16

We do talk about when we get married etc but still live apart. I'm homeless atm so stay with him almost everyday but he shares his house with a cousin so our next step is moving in together just us. I just love the idea of being able to say my husband grin

gttia Mon 12-Jun-17 19:34:52

I was with you! Got mine after 5 years, getting married in the autumn.
But as another said, I discussed with him that I wanted to get married, we talked on and off for six months about it with no pressure and then he asked.
Talk to him...

MaidenMotherCrone Mon 12-Jun-17 19:36:08

We are getting married next June, I've told Himself he's still got to ask me at some point before then. I don't want to die having been married twice yet never proposed to.

AgathaCrispie Mon 12-Jun-17 20:08:29

if two adults want to get married wouldn't it make sense for them to discuss it together as adults?

^^This with bells on. I just do not get this 'proposal' nonsense.

DoesHeWantToOrNot Mon 12-Jun-17 21:26:56

I've broached it with dp. He said he would want to marry me but he's not divorced yet.

I've been wanting him to ask ever since our daughter was born. But I doubt he will.

I know people will say I should ask him but I asked my ex husband so I'm never going to ask him.

Beckypea Mon 12-Jun-17 21:28:12

Me and my DP have been together for over ,6 and a half years.... We own a home together and bought a dog last year.... I am still bloody waiting and finding it very VERY hard to bite my tongue now! In my early 30,'s now so just want to settle down. So I get how you ladies feel!

RestlessTravellerTheSequel Mon 12-Jun-17 21:30:00

It's amazing how many women in here seem to have lost the power of speech!

areyoubeingserviced Mon 12-Jun-17 21:32:05

Ladies, do you think that your dps actually want to marry you?

Beckypea Mon 12-Jun-17 21:35:49

I have ask mine but he says it's his job to do.... So I'm like... Go on then lol. He knows what I want. He says he will do it but wants it to be special but I think it's gone past that now as it could never be a surprise, if we ever do something nice I'll be expecting it and when it doesn't happen I'll just feel disappointed. I am my own worse enermy.

DoesHeWantToOrNot Mon 12-Jun-17 21:36:11

Mine said he does. But he may just have been saying that to keep me happy. Which I understand right now as it'll still be about another year before he is fully divorced.

elQuintoConyo Mon 12-Jun-17 21:41:20

I just woke up one January day and said 'let's get married!' and we did that May.

Sod waiting around for a flashmob grin

Vari757 Mon 12-Jun-17 21:53:01

I wish people would stop suggesting we propose to them. Maybe we dont want to and want to be asked!

SolemnlyFarts Mon 12-Jun-17 22:03:31

Unfortunately you'll have to decide if you want to be proposed to more than you want to get married, Vari.

I've read so many threads here over the years with women who suddenly realise they are up shit creek after having children and staying at home/working part time with their partner who never proposed when the relationship start creaking.

Some men don't want to get married. I would want to find out if my partner want the same as me before having children, to avoid being screwed over if things ever go south.

Sod romance, think about keeping a roof over your head if the worst happens.

Seeingadistance Mon 12-Jun-17 22:18:03

I don't understand why so many women are so passive. Those of you who are waiting for a man to propose marriage, do you also just wait around for a man to make other serious life decisions for you? Are you able to decide for yourselves about career choices, financial decisions, major purchases (car, house etc)? Or do you have to have a man make all those decisions for you too?

How about, as a pp suggested, having a discussion about your shared future, like two competent and equal adults?

Or have we really gone back to the 1950s, or even earlier?

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross Mon 12-Jun-17 22:24:20

Why are you waiting for a proposal though? Like princesses in a tower waiting to be rescued. Why can't you propose?

elQuintoConyo Mon 12-Jun-17 22:30:47

My Grandmother proposed to my Grandfather. It was 1944. She was 19. She rocked. Well, so did my Grandad!

She asked me whether I was going to marry Mr Conyo and my exact words were "it's only been 8 years - i want to be sure!" she laughed her arse off. She had 9dc. We got married after 12 years together - for love and for the legal aspect of future dc. Grandmother was delighted I kept my surname wink

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