We've tried relationship counselling. I was still making most of the effort; counsellor v liberal, wanting me to "accept" DH's unhelpful, laid back behaviours, also told me maybe I need to accept that DH doesn't communicate.
I've cancelled the counsellor as her views/ideas made me feel inadequate/unreasonable/silly which wasn't helping my self esteem.
We could have a really lovely life, we have a lovely house, lovely DCs, good jobs, he's a fabulous father. But he's a non-communicator, unambitious, tight with money, apathetic at times and quite sloppy.
It took a lot to get him to relationship counselling and him going was a major breakthrough, however, it's made me feel worse about our relationship.
I am so desperate for things to work. Is there anything else that I can do? Is taking a step back sometimes a positive move forward? I am on the verge of menatlly/emotionally/physically switching off from our relationship entirely. Is there ANYTHING that I can do to salvage what we have and maintain our lives as they are?
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I REALLY want my relationship to work, but it just isn't.
totheseaside · 08/06/2017 14:43
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