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IPhone help please.....

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 10:44

Hi, please can someone help!

To cut a long story short..... oh was being cagey with an old phone that he was giving to me, wouldn't let me have it til he'd reset it etc... I just a had a feeling he was being weird and he got all defensive when I pulled him up on it! I took the opportunity to have a look through it when he went out and found loads of emails in spam from dating sites, 6 people have viewed your profile, dear member of dating site etc etc from many hook up type sites. I couldn't get to see if there were any welcome to your account ones etc. He then proceeded to work out how to reset phone so can't look again. I felt sick and betrayed and confused. Could it be spamming?? He does look at porn, which I know, don't feel very comfortable with but I know he does. Could it be junk from there? I then managed to look at current phone briefly and saw his internet history last week was porn sites, but also two references to hook up sites, could the be pop ups? I looked in advance settings and the top two sites for data usage were hook up sites. Is this running in background of the porn? I've searched forums and people have said they never go on dating sites, do use porn, and their advanced settings data usage does show dating sites and they must be pop ups, my question is, how much data would that be using? Minuscule? If it's a pop up can it use a considerable amount of data?? I know I sound snoopy and paranoid and sneaky but history has taught me not to confront without all facts or it's quickly hidden :(( please help

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Gooseygoosey12345 · 07/06/2017 10:55

No idea about the data usage part but both DP and I get emails from dating websites daily, neither of us have ever used one. I also get emails from "Russian ladies who want to be in your bed" and then the same from Chinese, Ukrainian, Thai and many other nationalities. Hopefully someone can come along and give you some insight on the data usage also where on earth do you find that?
I hope it's nothing BrewFlowers

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Delphi2022 · 07/06/2017 10:57

Hi OP,

Unfortunately, I think he has been a member of these sites. Do you remember the names of the dating/hookup sites as I will be able to tell you?

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Mari50 · 07/06/2017 11:00

I was on match and POF- inactive at the moment, my junk email is full of stuff from adult dating sites, do I want sex, sex hook ups in my area. Etc etc
I don't look at porn so it's not come from anything connected to that. And I'm not active on either site so it's not indicitive of any searching, they just send me shit.

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ItsAHardKn0ckLife · 07/06/2017 11:01

Are they well known sites OP?

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 11:03

Flirtymilfs.com. Iwantu.com. Freehookupaffair.com.


On the data usage it's top of the screen..... 64kb.... is that pop up or used?? Thanks all. I'm so confused!!

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 11:04

Goosey..... google told me to go in settings.... safari.... advanced settings. :(

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OnionKnight · 07/06/2017 11:05

My junk inbox receives dating site spam daily, I've never been on a dating site and I'm not a member of any porn site, I suspect that my email address has been passed on by legit sites or something.

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OnionKnight · 07/06/2017 11:05

64k is tiny, could be a pop up.

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hellsbellsmelons · 07/06/2017 11:14

Try to get into settings.
Down to Battery
Scroll down and it will show you what he uses most.
Click on the Last 7 days.

So looking at mine
Home & Lock Screen 35%
Facebook 28%
Safari 16%
Etc......

When I checked my ExP out; Messager and Whatsapp had big usage so I knew that's how he was communicating with other Women.
And then I could check there.

Worth a try maybe?

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Delphi2022 · 07/06/2017 11:44

Looks like spam! I have never heard of any of those sites you've mentioned. I would still be concerned about how protective he was over his phone!

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Gooseygoosey12345 · 07/06/2017 11:58

Thanks OP!
It does sound like spam to me. Can you not bring it up delicately because it's hard to put your mind at ease without having the conversation. Generally the reaction will tell you all you need to know.

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caffeinestream · 07/06/2017 12:12

64kb is tiny, hardly worth mentioning.

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CheersMedea · 07/06/2017 12:31

It does sound like spam to me.

Not if he has emails saying "6 profile views" type stuff. That is not spam. That means he has set up a profile.

I wouldn't take account of the data figure if it's an old phone because it will only show what recent data has been used. If he hasn't been on the website/app for a while on that phone it won't show up.

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 12:38

Thank you. The spam was on old phone. The recent data was on current phone. And flirtymilfs and Iwantu.com we're both at top of data usage list. I just don't know whether to be worried or not :(

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JoJoSM2 · 07/06/2017 13:03

As much as you're trying not to worry, it sounds fishy. If he's had messages '6 people have viewed your profile' then that's because he had/has a profile there. Could you just have a look at these websites to see if he's on there?

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SparklingRaspberry · 07/06/2017 13:15

The "6 profile views" website could still be spam!

A lot of the time that's done to make people think 'my profile? I can't remember this, let's have a look.." then bam another hit on their page!

Ask him OP. Or do some more digging. But I wouldn't be too convinced he's up to no good just yet.

I don't give my old phones to anyone. Not because I have things to hide but because I worry that it wouldn't get cleared properly and they'd find certain things on there. If I DID give it to someone though, I'd also make sure it was completely cleared before handing it over.

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pinkandstripey · 07/06/2017 13:19

Is his email account connected to any other device - laptop, iPad etc? Or could you guess his password? Sounds like you're going to drive yourself mad if you don't do a bit more digging.

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OnionKnight · 07/06/2017 13:23

I get spam saying that my dating profile has had XXX views, I don't have a dating profile anywhere Hmm

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 13:30

And do I worry about this??

I can access his emails any other way. And he made a big thing yesterday that he was emptying his inbox as it was driving him mad.... now down to zero :( I've tried guessing his password with nor am ones but no luck :( thanks all

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BarnsligRav · 07/06/2017 13:32

Could be pop ups/spam, but why would he be so cagey about it and delete everything, if it was innocent? All those of you who say "oh yeah I get spam like this" will you also not let your partner near your phone because of it? That's the worry.

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OnionKnight · 07/06/2017 13:34

They are popups, proper websites are a MB at least for each page viewed.

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OnionKnight · 07/06/2017 13:38

I gave my wife an iPhone 7 plus a few months ago, I wiped it of course, why wouldn't I? It had my accounts and apps etc on there. She's welcome to use my phone whenever and she knows the access code, not that she's ever asked because she has her own. But at the same time my phone is mine, like hers is hers, I wouldn't just give her my old one without wiping it is what I'm trying to say.

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indigox · 07/06/2017 13:40

They are popups, proper websites are a MB at least for each page viewed.

That's not the case at all.

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grownuplifesucks · 07/06/2017 13:42

I've been on it, set up a blank profile and looked for him. Most are no pics on site. Did all that for about twenty minutes.... I've used 66kb data. Tells me what I need to know Shock

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MyheartbelongstoG · 07/06/2017 13:48

He's set up profiles though isn't he.....

My ex husband was on hornymatches.com

Maritalaffair.com

These sites are quite specific aren't they.

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