We have been together for ten years, moved in together after seven years because of complications with jobs, respective children and finances. He was left in a bad state financially after his divorce. I worked and studied for a degree and paid for 85% of everything on days out and any holidays. So effectively, I feel I helped him pay off all his debts.
I became a SAHM when our DD was born two years ago because we have no support and DP works unpredictable hours plus we are in a rural location due to his job. I look after his two DC regularly so altogether I care for five children. Before I moved in, there was talk of me managing finances because of him being rubbish previously but that has not happened. He gives me £350 each month for food while he pays rent (£375) utilities and minimal maintenance because I have his DC a lot. I receive maintenance for my DC and child benefit. Out of these I have to pay my phone bill, pay off our sofa, a store card, my credit card, buy all clothes, shoes, birthday and Christmas presents for the DC. As well as pay for any groups or activities and associated costs for the DC, birthday presents for friends, school trips ect. I also pay for any days out and have begun planning them for his work days so I don't have to pay for him, too. If there's something the DC want to do and I say I can't afford it, he has never once offered to pay.
I found a letter from his work this morning which said he earned £47,000 last year I'm being taken for a mug, aren't I?
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LottieG100 · 06/06/2017 13:15
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