Hi! Can I ask lovely mumsnetter a for a bit of advice or some suggestions about how to deal with my girl friend's behaviour whilst out with my friends/family.
Basically she's lovely and can be very kind and generous but she seems to look down on me a bit EG if I'm telling her something she'll cut across me with something completely unrelated as if I was being really boring. She criticises my weight a lot too which is hard as I put on a bit of weight having our 18 month old dd and am struggling to lose it.
The thing is, friends and family think she's wonderful and that I've done really well for myself (she's much better looking than me) but I dread going out with her as she puts me down constantly in front of them some examples are:
Telling them I sit on my bum all day whilst she runs around doing everything in the house (not true, apart from cooking which she enjoys, she barely lifts a fingers)
Telling them I'm a bad mum and have no patience for dd.
Criticising my weight in front of them and saying ah-ah (like you do to a small child) if I reach for something she disapproves of.
If I try to stand up for myself though she either shushes me and tells me not to cause a scene in front of them
Or she tells them "see what I have to put up with, she's so moody!!"
They all laugh along with her and I feel isolated from my own friends and family.
I'm losing confidence from the constant criticism and put downs but how do I stand up to her without being told I'm a moody cow? Thanks for suggestions!!
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How do I stand up to this?
Missmoodycow · 31/05/2017 19:32
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