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And so it goes on

(14 Posts)
greenberet Wed 31-May-17 16:03:47

Why do my kids return from the x's at 3.30 not having eaten all day - (because he's been at work and has no food in the house)

Why does he expect there to be food here for them to eat when he pays bugger all for their maintenance, I do not work due to MH issues and get no spousal from him
(Because the business we owned jointly is going down the pan - not, I do not really have MH issues even though I am now receiving PIP and because the judge says I am intelligent and can therefore get a job even though I am 52 & not worked for 20 years)

Why does he send DS back here with birthday cake from OWs DS party that Dd did not attend because she wants nothing to do with Ow and her kids
( because DS was supposed to be doing something with Dd and me for his own birthday at the same time but chose this instead)

why do kids always come back aggressive & in a shit mood after spending time with him
( because he's passive aggressive and a shit)

Why have I been in bed all day
(Because yesterday I realised I cannot even afford to buy a house like I had when I met him despite him being a successful business professional and the equity in family home was £600 k,)

Why does he still have a key to my home that he uses for kids yet refuses to give them a key to his home
(Because I will snoop)

Why do I fear my DS is going to turn out just like him
( because the first thing he says to me is what have you done all day and is now "abusing" DD)

There's only one answer because he's a C&&T!!

Feel much better now :-)

hellsbellsmelons Wed 31-May-17 16:08:20

Say it properly and say it loud.
He's a CUNT!!!

MusicToMyEars800 Wed 31-May-17 16:15:41

HE IS A CUNT!!! I wish I had better words to offer, but that and you are better off without him is all I can offer.

Shayelle Wed 31-May-17 16:19:31

HE IS A CUNT!!!! We all think it grin flowers

HollyJollyDillydolly Wed 31-May-17 16:21:41

Yup. He's a cunt

MsWanaBanana Wed 31-May-17 16:22:42

CUNT. I sympathise x

OriginalArchitect Wed 31-May-17 16:30:04

Another CUNT! from me too...
Your sons behaviour sounds really tough to handle too. Does it fade, the further away from his dads influence he gets? Ie: just a reaction to spending time together?

TheGirlWhoWasntThere Wed 31-May-17 18:51:42

He is indeed a cunt.

Stuck16 Wed 31-May-17 18:54:01

Saw this on another post

youtu.be/0doSWS0Fj24

Hope it works and hope it's cathartic for you!

Funko Wed 31-May-17 20:02:08

Gah now I'll be humming that all tonight too (I posted it grin)

Yes. Because he is a cunt op!

Sickofthisalready Wed 31-May-17 21:15:36

Ha ha ha he's a mughouse cunt!!!

Isetan Thu 01-Jun-17 08:11:15

How old are your children? If you are worried about them not eating while in his care, send them with extra food (yes he should be providing food but if you are aware they are going without food it's also your responsibility). If your son is abusing your DD, you need to actively seek help for both of them.

I get it he was and is a shit but hanging on to the resentment doesn't help you now or in the future. The focus on your Ex is detrimental to both you and your children.

greenberet Thu 01-Jun-17 11:15:59

thanks ladies for the support - i hadn't seen that you tube before - made me laugh.

my kids are now 16 - they would feed themselves if there was food in the house - they have also previously been told not to eat anything when he wasn't there - probably incase they make a mess!

they are in the middle of GSCE revision - they do not need this - nor do I-

I get the hanging onto resentment bit - but when you have been shafted to the extent I have and paid over the top for legal support that did not materialise it is very difficult.

I am currently awaiting a referral for extra counselling.

it is never ending - today a payment of £100 has appeared in my bank account - when i ask what its for i get "It's the payment specified by CMS"

i now have to phone them to find out what is going on - continual aggro that i could do without!

this is what is detrimental to the kids - his bloody cuntishness!

greenberet Tue 20-Jun-17 08:05:04

"oh go no not another fucking day of this"
this is exactly what i feel like - ive woken up this morning thinking about the pension situation and what i need to do to keep on top of this despite having 3 financial advisers working on this - I am convinced X will have done something to stop me getting a share of this despite the court order and despite him swearing blind he did it to benefit me - we'll see - if im correct on this christ knows what i will have to do then.

Another part of the jigsaw unravelled yesterday - everyone ie my sol his sol, X, court kept saying to me apply for tax credits, apply for tax credits - why havent you applied for tax credits yet - i finally got round to doing this and yesterday found out i'm not eligible for the working tax credit of £640 odd pounds that the X kept quoting in his statement and the judge based her figures on - guess why not - because i am no longer employed in the joint company.

What I want to know is why did noone pick up on this before - my solicitor who has 20 odd years experience never "got" this part - why not? I couldn't apply before because the dividends I "received" put me above the threshold - and now when I need the money I am not eligible.

My kids have their prom Friday - my dd decided to "alter" her dress last night - she's left it for me to now put right - actually i just want to get back into bed and say fuck it to everything.

im sorry for my mood but i read this last night on another thread to do with spousal maintenance and it has pissed me right off

Judge (female) saw through it and remarked it was yet another example of a scorned ex-wife basing expectations on greed and anger.
The tosser that wrote it sounds exactly like my X.

I also came across a zombie thread to do with child maintenance and how the CSM really dont give a shit either.

we are being screwed over by a system that is meant to protect us - but more importantly our children who are unable to defend themselves and what happens - im sorry I am just so angry all over again!

im recording my emotion here - i have a counselling session tomorrow and im taking this with me

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