Hello all,
I have never posted in Relationships before but I don't think if there's anywhere else that would fit.
Basically I had a baby 8 months ago. I had an aunt and a female cousin who live 150km away who happened to be in the vicinity on holiday at the time. They wanted to drop off presents for the baby.
That would have been quite normal except it was Day 3 and I had crushing baby blues that day. I was bawling, very low, wanted to jump out the window basically. Couldn't face the visit as I knew they'd stay ages. Had my tit out the whole time, bleeding all over the place you know the score. Felt disgusting and low and desperately tearful.
My DH really really didn't want them to come. I felt like I couldn't put them off as they had presents and were literally on their way back home that afternoon. But in desperation I texted and said "I have terrible baby blues and am having a hard day so I might not be the best company '. They were undeterred. DH thought it was the height of ignorance and was pretty pissed off.
I was wobbly but held it together and made small talk. At least I think so, I can't remember that much about it. DH seemed fine. Not effusive, but polite. He didn't sit down with us but that's cos he was busy with our toddler. I suppose he may have been a bit stiff perhaps?
I found out today that the cousin has been saying my DH made them feel very unwelcome.
I am devastated. So I texted her and said I had heard she was upset after coming to see me. I was so so very sorry but I wanted to jump out the window that day and DH was desperately worried about me. I'm so sorry if you or your Mum were offended by either of us and I hope I can make it up to you some day.
She replied: Nothing to feel sorry about Hun. Just got the impression that X didn't want us there.
Her reply has upset me even more tbh. It's like she ignored all the baby blues stuff and wants to demonise my DH, who to be frank is the only one who has actually helped me day in day out.
Do I reply? I'm so upset on DHs behalf. He was probably stand offish but FFS I explained the context!!! So I want to defend him. But is there any point?
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My DH has apparently offended my family.
Ladybabyblues · 31/05/2017 12:48
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