Hey,
I'll try to keep this brief, but as the title says I have just found out my GF has slept with one of my best-friends before we started going out.
I know, that what happened before we were going out was in the past - and we all have a past but I feel this is slightly different.
To add some context - me and my GF got really close around a year ago. Admitting our feelings for eachother, talking about moving things further - and nothing physical happened. However I wanted to travel and it was the perfect opportunity, so I did for around 8 months. We left it on good terms and kept in touch regularly.
For my birthday, she sent me a card (I was in Melbourne, her in England) saying how much she missed me and she still loved me.
1 week after this she slept with my best friend.
Now moving to the present day, yesterday I found out that she had slept with my best friend. All of my other friends knew but somehow nobody told me. As soon as she realised I didn't know, she did tell me as it came up in conversion (the best friend she slept with is living in NZ now) with one of my other friends who realised she didn't know that I was not aware of it.
To say this came as a shock is an understatement and I really don't know what to do our feel.
I think 2 things bother me here.
- Obviously, not knowing when all my other friends did hurts.
- The fact she was saying how much she missed me then sleeps with one of my best friends just doesn't sit well with me.
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As this recently happened, I am aware that I may not be thinking rationally. But am I right to feel annoyed and what should I do?
I don't think this should be a deal breaker (it was before we got together after all) but I feel there has been an element of trust lost.
Thanks for any advice,
Shaun.