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Advice for a friend

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Aggieisback1 Wed 31-May-17 10:46:36

I've had a chat with a male friend recently. Firstly we are not romantically interested in each other, but I would like to see him happy. He is a small bit younger than me, mid 40s. We had a heart to heart the other night and he said he'd quite like to meet someone but he's worried he won't. Obviously you can't make something like that happen. He's not one of these "woe is me" guys who'd make women run a mile, far from it. He recently relocated and sold up his house and so on. He's looking at starting a small business, & in the meantime has a mortgage free home and sufficient passive income to live on. The reason I mention this is he worries the fact he doesn't have a conventional job is ruining his dating prospects. He is very active and does lots of things so he's hardly boring. I reassured him this wasn't the case and women would like a man who was relatively secure and following his passion. I am worried he will be tempted back to his old job which was hugely stressful and was damaging his health. I don't have any single girlfriends who live in the right location for him otherwise Id make some introductions. He has done OLD but he lives in a semi rural area and there aren't many single people around.

HildaOg Wed 31-May-17 10:53:39

The type of woman any man with sense wants to avoid - ones that are only after money- will run a mile. Genuine people won't care. He can take care of himself, he's setting up his own business - it's not like he's on the dole and playing xbox all day, he isn't.

Tell him not to worry about it. When they ask what he does "I've finished working here and am setting up my own business..."

TheNaze73 Wed 31-May-17 11:01:36

Sage advice as ever from HildaOg smile

MrsGotobed Wed 31-May-17 11:02:14

I can't see anything you've said about him being a negative that would put women off TBH.

Obviously women on the dating scene have weird skewed priorities if they would be put off by his circumstances !

MrsGotobed Wed 31-May-17 11:04:24

Meant to say... where is he as I have a single 40 year old friend, lived semi-rurally who has tried OLD but not met the right sort. He sounds right up her street. smile

noego Wed 31-May-17 13:15:14

If he is worried, he can project that worry and women will pick up on it. He needs to chill out, relax, be himself, not be afraid of what he does, be confident, charming and courteous. The rest will take care of itself.

Aggieisback1 Wed 31-May-17 16:21:18

Thanks for the responses. MrsG he lives in southern Ireland & often visits London with work and so on. He always says he'd happily relocate if he met someone. I did think it was a risk moving to the countryside but he says he never met anyone when he worked in London and was stressed all the time. He's a lovely, intelligent, good looking guy, bit on the shy side at first.

MyheartbelongstoG Wed 31-May-17 18:53:23

I'm in southern Ireland and if he has an English accent the ladies here will love him!

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