Posting from work as I suspect DH to have installed a keylogger at home. It means that I don't know when I will be able to come back.
I have been with DH for 13 years, married for 9, 3DCs aged 10, 7 and 4.
DH is sulking. Again. This time, it is because on Sunday, when he was lecturing DS about his Minecraft use, he said "you have a problem, just like Mum has a problem - she goes directly from a computer screen to a book". I asked him if I wasn't allowed to read books now. He hasn't spoken to me since.
He sulks, sometimes for weeks at a time. Here are a few examples of things that have set him off in the past and that I find myself avoiding :
- going on Mumsnet
- going on the internet in general
- wearing a knee-length skirt at work
- wearing lipstick
- being in the staff room at work (I am a teacher)
- watching a film with Richard Armitage
- saying hello to a male acquaintance
- coming back from work at 12:35 instead of 12:30
He constantly slags me off to the DC ("you never finish things, like your mother" / "you never admit you're wrong, like your mother"), tells them I don't do anything around the house (I do about 90% of housework, childcare and cooking), that I spend all the family's money, that I am selfish, that he wishes he had not married me. He even made references to my "mileage" in front of them (he resents the fact that I was not a virgin when we met. I was 23 and I had had sex three times).
I find it hard to convey how ground down I feel. I try to talk to him, but either he stonewalls me like now, or he tells me that everything is my fault.
I would like to hear that he can change, but I am starting to realise that I cannot make him change.
Apart from LTB, is there anything I can do on a day-to-day basis?