Left XDP a month ago, after many years of (I feel) EA. Together 13 years, 3DC. All the time we've been together, he has had me pay in the majority of my salary into his account (not joint) each month, with him paying for things on his (not joint) credit card. House, savings, both cars, my mobile phone, everything in his name. Knew I had to leave for some time before I left, and didn't transfer my salary the month before and have since been paid again. XDP is livid, and insists that I should "pay him what I owe". He has threatened to take the car I'm driving (old, not of much value, he got the nice one), and doesn't agree that I have immediate costs around looking after the DC. He believes my parents should be paying for us to live with them because they didn't make me go back and talk things through with him before I left. For the past few days he has been telling our oldest that he can't afford anything because I haven't paid him, and has been telling me how he has no money. I know for a fact that he has around £10K sat in the bank in savings that I've contributed to over the years - am I right to stand my ground on this, or should I pay? Sorry, longer post than intended!
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Financial Pressure from Ex - Should I Pay?
ChangChang · 30/05/2017 03:18
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