Just wanted to check how other people view this scenario.
So as not to drip feed: I had a disfuctional upbringing where my mother would often question why people wanted to be friends with me. I am reasonably sure this was her problem and not actually me because I do have friends, from growing up and in every day life and I have been told In a people pleaser so probably fairly good friend material. However, I do feel very very insecure (and hide this extremely well) because I can't shake off the idea that my Mum was right.
So anyway! I made an arrangement yesterday with a work colleague who I don't usually see socially (although we sit together at lunch at least once a week and have a good time laughing together). We said we could meet up this evening to do a mutual hobby together. I sent a text to work friend saying "What time shall a meet? Got my kit sorted". Friend texts back saying "I'm at a BBQ I didn't realise I was going to. I feel like a dick now".
I'm not sure how to take this? I'm quite upset as I had been looking forward to this evening. I suppose they must-have forgotten about the arrnagement otherwise they'd have already sent a text saying they could make it? Is it rude? I genuinely find my barometer for knowing what this means is terrible which is why I need a sense check. How would other people react in this scenario?
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Reality check required - rude, not rude?
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hollowstone · 29/05/2017 21:37
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