Following some emailing in which we established common interests, I spoke to this guy on the phone. From my point of view, the conversation went well, we got on and he was everything I was looking for -age wise, education, interests and so on. I seemed to be what he was looking for (at least from what he said).
To put this in context, it is very unusual for me to find someone that fits this. To avoid a drip feed, this was not via a main stream dating site; it is a niche interest site for people who have same niche interest. So this was a rare event for him and for me too. We talked about how difficult it was to find someone during the conversation.
I never heard from him again and it was really bothering me. I sent him a message saying basically I was interested/know you aren't/fine/would be interested in some feedback about why. I really was interested because I had no idea. He was single and seemed keen. I was pretty sure that it was something in the conversation that was a turn off for him.
He has replied with a lovely kind response saying he has got things to say but wants to speak. I said don''t want to take up your time email is fine. He replied saying email too time consuming and he would rather explain kindly on the phone.
Having braved the whole asking thing and thinking I really wanted to know, I am now having second thoughts. I thought it would be a few lines in an email.
I am now shit scared of getting upset on the phone and speaking to him and him hurting me badly rather than something constructive. There's nothing in that email that would suggest it but I suddenly feel horribly vulnerable.
Should I speak to him or not? Is this a really bad idea or should I leave it?
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On a scale of 1 to 10 how much of a bad idea is this? (online dating)
willieverever · 29/05/2017 18:17
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