Ive been seeing someone for a few months in a long distance relationship. He seems to have a lot of female friends and friends who are exs..I went down to see him last week and he saud I could use his ipad to send a message to a mutual friend of ours..he told me hed invited a female friend to stay for the weekend which I was really unhappy about..hes known her on and off for a few years.while I was on messenger a message popped up from her which I couldnt resist reading..it seemed she was cancelling the weekend due to other commitments but invited him to go and stay for a week saying..Ive got a swimming pool and a hot tub ! I felt sick..so scrolled back and saw that they had been messaging on and off for the last few months and in one message theyd arranged a golf weekend back in Feb..which she then cancelled..interestingly it fitted with him then inviting me down for the weekend.
Last week he had sent her a message saying..
I had to ask.you called me up for a night out of the blue many months ago which was great and from your perspective a release.
I hope it wasnt a mistake ?! That aside I absolutely love your company and your company would be very much appreciated right now if only very platonic.
She replied..of course it wasnt a mistake the problem is that you live so far away.
He had replied that it was only 2.5 hours and the following few messages were them arranging her coming to stay..
I challenged him and he accused me of being paranoid saying he slept with her years ago and was just checking that she wasnt put off coming to visit him...hes now arranged a visit up to where he used to live..where she also lives and is claiming its to catch up with old friends...hes pulling my plonker isnt he ?
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FourSticks · 29/05/2017 09:27
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