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Does any one else experience this?

(20 Posts)
fluffoff Mon 29-May-17 08:51:13

Does anyone else's husband wake you up early after a terrible night sleep trying to hug and kiss you when you're completely knackered?? I think it's so selfish!!! Bank hol mon at 7:30am I'm woken when I have terrible hayfever and can't breathe or sleep, he wakes me nudging me kissing me and telling me he wants a hug! Is this normal???

Materdolores Mon 29-May-17 08:55:23

Yep. Mine does it too. I gently and lovingly grab him by the testicles and squeeze until he screams. Then I go back to sleep.

walmo Mon 29-May-17 08:58:22

It's fairly normal for many men to want a "hug" when they wake up.

A kick in the shins usually shuts them up.

fluffoff Mon 29-May-17 08:58:48

Haha I will note that down. grin

fluffoff Mon 29-May-17 09:00:04

He didn't get a hug I ignored him, couldn't even open my eyes after 4 hrs sleep lol

elQuintoConyo Mon 29-May-17 09:00:34

If we are both awake then he comes in for a hug. But he wouldn't wake me up for one. Not after that one time i whispered 'Lorena Bobbit' in his ear.

walmo Mon 29-May-17 09:02:33

"Piss off" works reasonably well.

CiliatedEpithelium Mon 29-May-17 09:13:22

We have a 'no wakey, no touchy' rule here.

fluffoff Mon 29-May-17 09:15:31

Hahahaha I might whisper that next time.
My DH does it all the bloody time wakes me up on purpose and it really annoys me, his hands are usually all over me, and he kisses me. I've told him a million times not to wake me but he still does it cos he's a selfish twat!

Nancy91 Mon 29-May-17 09:18:40

Argh! Mine does this too angry

If it was actually for a hug it wouldn't bother me as it would be cute, but I'm wise to it now grin

LellyMcKelly Mon 29-May-17 09:36:22

Ooh, I love being woken up with a special 'hug' in the morning. It's as hard as rock then.

ZiggyForever Mon 29-May-17 09:39:03

I'm jealous of you all! I wake up to DP browsing Facebook with his phone right in my face angry

TheNaze73 Mon 29-May-17 09:42:09

Do you make time for intimacy in the relationship?

What he's doing isn't right however if it isn't happening regularly at other times, he might be trying to save what you have

Emboo19 Mon 29-May-17 09:43:56

My boyfriend does this, although he doesn't pretend he's wanting a hug! He'll kiss my neck and his hands start wandering, and he'll say 'dd's still asleep'. On weekends we both get one lie in and I'll just go back to sleep after, sometimes if it's his lie in morning he'll offer to get up with dd, to convince me.
I don't mind it though and he knows that!
If I'm ever not in the mood he stops straight away and tbf it's usually only 20/30 mins before dd is due to wake up anyway.

Emboo19 Mon 29-May-17 09:46:02

Oh and sometimes, like this morning I do it to him! He doesn't complain either, in fact it got him up and making breakfast afterwards.

Frizziee Mon 29-May-17 10:22:26

My dp will come in and rub my arm and say he loves me if he comes home while I'm having a nap (very pregnant) or if he wakes before me he'll make me breakfast and bring it to me in bed. All very sweet but I'm like a caged animal when I've been woken!

Cakedoesntjudge Mon 29-May-17 12:37:10

Today is one of about 4 child free bank holidays I've had since DP left 5 years ago and one of the first I haven't had to go to work. I was so excited for a lay in. Instead my boyfriend woke me up about 7 because he wanted to cuddle, then five minutes later decided actually he didn't want to, rolled over and started snoring loudly. So I was up, showered dressed and doing housework by half 8ish 😒

AnyFucker Mon 29-May-17 12:40:03

My H makes sure I am at least half awake before he starts any groping.

Morning sex is great but not if sleep is preferable.

ButtonMushroomEx Mon 29-May-17 13:37:01

Cake i think that would later stand up in court if he was found bludgeoned in his bed by a Dyson handle.

Well it would if I was on the jury....

walmo Mon 29-May-17 13:43:52

A whispered "Are you awake?" is acceptable.

A proper whisper, not a stage whisper, and never repeated.

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