So, every time I seem to sit down, casually bring up a conversation about a recent topic, concern, thought on anything whether a it's something on the news, maybe my feelings, something to do with the kids, plans for the future, things to get excited about etc my husband always seems to shut me up.
He will briefly listen, but not offer a lot back, or get into a proper in depth chat with me and show enthusiasm or anything, but instead he will say something like, "let's not talk about this now", or "it's not the right time to talk about this" or "I don't really want to have a conversation about that at the moment". He will also, if I have an opinion or concern about something he will tell me I'm being silly, stop worrying, etc just never offers anything with any substance back. I feel like I'm in a box, the lid opens and I talk then he shuts the lid down again! It drives me nuts and I feel I've gone a little introvert and quieter in the house than I normally am as I just feel doesn't value or appreciate anything I have to say, so what's the point in me talking? He shows great interest in his own affairs and has enthusiasm when talking to friends about topics but when it's me it's different, like he can't be bothered. I crave for a good, adult conversation, share opinions and ideas, his thoughts on certain things, be passionate about things going on in the world, what our kids have been up to etc. If I react and tell him how he makes me feel he always turns it around and makes the issue about me reacting so to steer it away from him, so it turns into an argument as I get frustrated and then he just sits there and sulks, plays the victim and makes me out to be the perpetrator. He does this a lot! He is very driven and successful with work and it seems that's where all his energy goes. What do you think?
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AIBU husband never talks
speakyourmindkindagirl · 28/05/2017 11:28
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