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This will be a reminder.

(7 Posts)
Beelzebop Sat 27-May-17 20:31:26

I am writing this to remind my future self that my loving dp is a really nasty individual when the wrong mix of relatives and beer is involved, and a stay at ours.
For some reason I am now evil, and shall be looked at and talked to like a piece of shit.
This is me, reminding all of us that No, HE WON'T STOP..HE WONT CHANGE.
And that is why I am hiding at the bottom of my garden. Don't worry, I feel physically safe but mainly just embarrassed. He always does it in front of the mil, she is where he learnt a lot of emotional stuff.
Better go, but I'm not lazy, or a cunt. X

PurpleDaisies Sat 27-May-17 20:33:10

He is not a nasty individual "when he drinks with the wrong relatives". He is a nasty individual full stop.

Are you thinking of leaving?

twentytwotwentysix Sat 27-May-17 20:44:09

It's a great idea to have written reminders, it's what gave me the strength and conviction to eventually leave. flowers

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Sat 27-May-17 21:32:06

Use this also as a reminder that lots of people will support you when you are strong enough to ltb. .
You deserve so much more. .

goneanonymous Sat 27-May-17 21:36:31

It's great to have a written reminder. I have some on here that I can search under old posting names that remind me that the last three years might have been hard but being single is a whole heap better than living the life I did. Do you have children? Because mine have gone from strength to strength not living the life you now have, don't let them think that this is the normal way to have a relationship.

Good luck and I hope you can be strong when you need it most flowers.

2cats2many Sat 27-May-17 21:39:20

Sending you strength flowersn

Beelzebop Sat 27-May-17 22:58:25

Hello and thank you for replying. Sorry I had to wait until everyone had gone to bed. We have a mil visit situation. She is not an awful house guest, but two more adults in a house doesn't help!
It's such a crying shame. He had almost passed the test. It's been over a year since last rather attack. But no, the combination brought him out.
Honestly, I was not thinking of leaving but I will now rethink. It was embarrassing and obviously related to alcohol intake. He did the sudden mood change thing.
Thanks for the support xxx

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