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What do I do?

(12 Posts)
bellalou1234 Fri 26-May-17 21:17:43

I'm lost, it's mine and my
Partners 10 year anniversary this August and we're currently on holiday. We have a child each 21 and 18. For the last 2 years there's been almost no sex, my partner whilst at home will say he's up for it on an afternoon, I'm normally at work or making tea, nothing happens, or on a night he'll say he'd like it if I made an effort and dressed up, I'm at uni and work bank shifts and would like affection! Or a cuddle! Anyway we're now on holiday day 6 and not even a cuddle! I'm only 36 and need more!

AfroBrown Fri 26-May-17 21:31:51

Have you spoken to him?

75yasmin Fri 26-May-17 21:35:58

Why don't you make the first move? Apparently men like that, lol. According to a survey that was done.

AfroBrown Fri 26-May-17 21:43:25

What survey was that?

OriginalArchitect Fri 26-May-17 21:45:23

What happens if you cuddle him, or make the first move, OP?

feelingoldandtired Fri 26-May-17 21:52:56

Firstly do you want to Dress up ?

feelingoldandtired Fri 26-May-17 21:53:21

Tell him you would like a cuddle that would be a start

bellalou1234 Sat 27-May-17 13:41:55

I've tried making the first move and still it's a no! He used to have a really high sex drive.

75yasmin Sat 27-May-17 13:56:53

Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him you miss the affection.
AfroBrown, I'll find out what survery it was and let you know

sandylion Sat 27-May-17 16:30:54

Could he be watching a lot of porn? Notorious for killing sex drives.

AttilaTheMeerkat Sat 27-May-17 16:43:20

What was the catalyst for this, if any, two years ago?.

Is he at all willing and able to talk to you further about this issue?. Has he watched a lot of porn?. Is he willing to go to the GP regarding a possible physical cause?. Does he realise that he could potentially lose you over this?.

bellalou1234 Sat 27-May-17 16:44:12

He had a vasectomy which coincided with a new job

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