NC but a regular.
Long story....
Years ago I was in a hideous place in my life. So as not to drag this out for 10 pages, I basically ended up in a situation where I took a lot of drugs and got so drunk I couldn't walk for a few months. There were a couple of people I would regularly meet up and do this with.
Fast forward a fair few years..... I'm now a mother and going through a divorce. Stbexh sends me a video......of me having sex with one of the people i used to associate with.
I dont remember agreeing to this. I don't remember agreeing to being recorded (which I clearly didn't, as in the video I'm telling him to stop recording!)
Anyway....this was a long while ago. I now have a new DP. We seem to be solid. We talk about everytging. I explained what happened.
But having spoken to him about this incident and the fact that I consider it to be rape and 'revenge porn' as he is still sending it to people years later, I've been told that I'm the one that is to blame, as I 'got wasted' and 'didn't remember '.
I'm so hurt. I should not have done what I did back then. I know this.
Drugs and alcohol are not the way to fix a problem.
But I also don't feel like I was to blame wholly.
I was in a vulnerable position. He took advantage. I couldn't have taken my protests any further.
But I still maintain, as much as I take responsibility for my actions, that it was not all my fault!! AIBU?
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*trigger warning* raped(?) and didn't know
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Iamsuchamess · 26/05/2017 01:00
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