He's 50 I'm late 40's. He's good company, we get along well, I've known him for about a year. It seems we have much in common in our work/interests/outlook on life. It's clear we both like each other, we've grown closer in recent times and we're kind of on the cusp of something, BUT
His family are an absolute pigging nightmare & ultimately, if you settle down with someone, in the long term you also end up involved with the extended family. He was born with bodily disfigurements that required immediate surgery to a mother who was herself 16yo & the victim of rape. She kept him but never bonded with him and it sounds like he's had quite a hard life being knocked from pillar to post by a totally dysfunctional family. When he was 18 his stepfather ran off with and married his 16yo sister! He's in therapy at the moment & is learning more about the dynamics in which he's lived all his life but he's not in a place yet where he wants to go nc - he may never be. We're both single, our work crosses & we enjoy time together. I genuinely like him but I have real reservations about being in a relationship with someone whose family is so messed up. Wwyd?
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Would you date this man?
scabblewumpet · 25/05/2017 20:17
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