Just posting to get it all down really, discovered DH affair some months ago, gave him another chance, he revealed all, promised it was a massive mistake and he'd ended it... ups and downs since we started again but he seemed to be on the right page. Just checking his phone records to make sure, as he's not been as open with his phone as I'd like (difficult habit to crack apparently ) noticed a different number, called a lot, I thought sod it and just called it to see who answered, of course it was ow, (on a different number from last time) though she didn't want to admit who she was. He's been calling her the whole time we've been 'working on our marriage' probably meeting her too. I can't think of any other explanation. He's not just an idiot who made a mistake, he's a cold hearted psycho. He knows I know. He's trying to gaslight, bluff, minimise, blame me for ruining it when he was 'trying so hard' I have to divorce him asap, I'm so tired, I'm so scared, I can't believe I'm here again, even though part of me was pretty sure I would be.
And a little extra background, with the affair (of approx 1-2 years probably) came the abusive behaviour towards me, verbal, emotional. And lots and lots of gaslighting about the affair. So I'm really scared about the future and how best to protect my kids. And I'm so confused and freaked out by this weird game they are playing with me, she denied any affair completely on the phone, even though he's already admitted it happened. They deserve each other with their lies.
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Yellowbag · 25/05/2017 05:11
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