Have read a thread in which (male) OP has been advised to either leave, have an affair or see an escort because his wife only has sex every 5-6 weeks. The general consensus seems to be a compromise is not possible and the OP is getting gender biased double standards. Anyhow, got me thinking what compromise ppl could suggest for my situation, which is wearing me down atm.
DH often works away, I'm living as a lone parent while he socialises and looks at porn 'when lonely'. He knows I don't agree with that. Historically, he wanted more sex than me, when I was on the pill (no libido), had young children and was working. Bearing in mind I was by myself with two kids a lot of the time, so that also affected my desire - it was not my choice to work away and therefore abstain for months, feel a bit shit I now know he was out drinking and looking at other women during these times. Usually did about once a week when he was home, possibly once a fortnight when kids were up every night and I was knackered.
Found out a few things about his socialising and past behaviour about a year ago, asking him to stop looking at porn and arguing (I think) led to him getting ED, which is still evident to some extent. Honestly wouldn't be surprised if it was guilt induced, as I'm sure I don't know all his exploits.
Now, kids are older, I'm a sahm because I can't get a job to fit in with school. I've been interested in spicing things up and would be happy with 3-4 times a week. He's not interested in toys or things I would like to try, says he's only interested in sex once a week, but when we do, it's always the same, and boring. I'm losing any interest I had myself now, and am less and less inclined to bother at all, as he thinks anything apart from a quick shag is too much bother.
So, if I don't want to leave, where's the compromise? Any advice?
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OK, how do I compromise on this?
PollyGasson24 · 24/05/2017 15:01
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