I met a guy about 6 weeks ago through online dating. When I first saw him I didn't immediately fancy him loads, but as the date wore on I realised there was lots I did like about him. He's funny, intelligent, got his shit together, kind and just generally a really good bloke.
We've seen each other a fair bit over the last 6 weeks and he hasn't done anything wrong. There's one thing that really annoys me and that's that he makes kissy noises at me whenever I enter the room or he does, and quite a lot just randomly. Probably about 10 times per hour and I realise that this is me being majorly unreasonable but for some reason it drives me nuts. Also, he's just really intense, he's put me on a pedestal and tells me he loves me and I'm his dream girl - I'm a bit of a cold fish when it comes to emotions and it makes me feel uncomfortable because I really don't feel the same way.
But other than that, he really hasn't done anything wrong, he's been so kind and lovely to me. I really wish I was as keen on him as he is on me but I've come to realise I'm just not, and I don't think I ever will be. It just doesn't feel right and I can't really vocalise why. So I need to tell him, but the problem is I don't know how to do that without really hurting him, or what I can say as there's no real reason to end it other than just not feeling right to me. I'm really crap at this, I have ended relationships before but generally there has been an incident which has given me a good reason to do it, which makes it easier.
To add to the mess, there's one event this weekend and one in a month's time which he has got tickets for because we were going to go together, I was going to both events anyway and he's tagging along. Lots of my friends will be at both events who have never met him so now I have the problem of ending it in the next couple of days and him coming to the event still and it being really awkward, or hold on until after the weekend which will mean he'll be meeting lots of my friends as my boyfriend, which seems a bit wrong when I know it can't go on.
Help! How do I let him down gently? And when?
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I've got to end this haven't I?
WildBelle · 24/05/2017 09:20
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