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Is this worth it?

(17 Posts)
Hueandcry Tue 23-May-17 20:25:31

I've been seeing someone for about 6 months. We can't see each other very often as we live quite a distance apart & we both have dcs. We met online so do tend to text a lot as opposed to talking on the phone. Last weekend I messaged asking if it was ok to phone & he just ignored it. Messaged as usual since then like nothing had changed. I was slightly pissed off but let it go. Ffwd to today. I have messaged him twice & had no reply. It's on WhatsApp so I know he's read them but just hasn't bothered to respond. Just wondering if this is worth it. I do really like him but wonder if the feeling's mutual. Am I reading too much into this or is he not that into me?

MikeUniformMike Tue 23-May-17 20:29:53

He's not that into you. Keep yourself busy and let him do the running.

Happybunny19 Tue 23-May-17 20:30:56

He sounds married or not interested enough. I wouldn't make any further contact. Move on.

AstrantiaMallow Tue 23-May-17 20:34:34

I don't think it matters how you met once you're going out though, does it?
I would hate it if I texted my bf asking to talk and for him to ignore me. In fact I would think he wants to end it or can't be bothered.
I think you deserve better and would say you should end it.

ImperialBlether Tue 23-May-17 20:37:45

Think how he'd behave if he really liked you. He'd be calling, taking you out, being really nice to you.

Now look at how he's treating you.

I'm really sorry - he's not that into you AND he's got no manners.

Hueandcry Tue 23-May-17 20:38:29

He's definitely not married

josuk Tue 23-May-17 20:40:32

Could be anything.
Sometimes i too read messages but am too busy to respond.
Sometimes i want to respond and something comes up, and then another thing, and then kids pull me somewhere and i totally forget.

So - don't read too much just into that. But, equally - don't sit there and monitor his responses.
And if you ask - it'll look needy.

Jus live your life. Let him come and look for you!!!!

Hueandcry Tue 23-May-17 20:40:56

He is really nice to me when we're together. We get on great. He does take me out & treats me really well. It's just when we're apart he doesn't seem that bothered.

HoundOfTheBasketballs Tue 23-May-17 20:41:06

I think, in these situations, if you're finding yourself having to ask, "is this worth it?" Then it tends not to be.

Hueandcry Tue 23-May-17 20:45:00

Why is it needy to ask though? If I'm not happy shouldn't I be able to say so without being accused of being needy? I think you're all right btw, just didn't want to admit it because I do really like him.

JK1773 Tue 23-May-17 20:57:19

Oh dear. It sounds like he's losing interest to me sadly. I've also been with my DP about 6 months. We're not in touch daily but we see each other once or twice a week. If I message him he always replies quickly (or as soon as he can if he's busy) and same here with his messages. Half the week he's busy with his DC and I have a busy 9-5 job. I've never known him read and not answer straight away once he's seen the message. I think if I were losing interest I'd just think I'll reply later and sometimes not bother. Maybe ask him when you see him. I don't think that's needy, I think it helps you know where you stand before you get any further in x

Hueandcry Tue 23-May-17 22:11:00

Losing interest after such a short time is not a good sign is it. I think I should call it a day as I can only see myself getting hurt sad

Changedname3456 Wed 24-May-17 14:36:34

LDRs are a pain in the arse - I'd never have one again. I don't think delays in responding to messages mean he can't be arsed with the relationship, but if it doesn't suit you then tell him and/or end the relationship.

BubblingUp Wed 24-May-17 14:50:30

Don't initiate contact again. The ball is in his court. If he resurfaces, be unavailable. You've asked him to talk on the phone, he hasn't. You've texted him twice, no response. His actions are saying, "I will see you on my terms, when I want to and nothing more."

Hueandcry Thu 25-May-17 16:53:45

I've ended it. I deserve better.

hellsbellsmelons Thu 25-May-17 17:01:34

Well done for recognising that.
Well done for ending it.
Get out and enjoy your life.
Keep busy.

Hueandcry Thu 25-May-17 21:56:15

Thanks hells

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