NC for this. Inherited a phone off my boyfriend (been together 4 years, no kids) a month ago. He deleted most of his stuff but some messages were left on there. Most were really boring. Making arrangements about football, gym, pub, car. There was one message string which has really got me worried. An old gf had found him through FB and she sent a message asking him how things were. The messages went back and forth over a few days and were late at night when I was in bed and he was watching TV He gave her a life update and mentioned me a few times. The problem is some of the messages were very, very mildly flirtatious. Talking about dates they had been on, reminiscing and so on. I can't get these messages out of my head and nothing like this has happened before. AIBU? I don't want to snoop but I find myself mentally questioning him every time his phone beeps. Please tell me I have nothing to worry about.
So he mentioned he's with you multiple times and they reminisced a bit? Seems harmless to me. Mention it if you must but I wouldn't blame him for being upset at the lack of trust. If he felt something more was happening he surely would have deleted them
Thanks everyone. It does look like I'm being a bit of a sausage. I think he would get a little jealous if things were the other way around. It was the what might have been comments which have got me thinking most. Does he still wish he were with her, I really hope not.