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I think I fancy someone way younger than me

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highlighta Tue 23-May-17 13:21:59

Met a chap, he really is just lovely. I have never hit it off with someone like this before... we have so much in common and I feel like I have know him forever, not just months. Not just that, but I feel so comfortable around him, and I can speak so openly to him... with no fear of judgement, etc... you get the idea.

The thing is, I really miss him when I don't see him. We have done so much together already, just simple things, but just being with him doing it makes it fun. I think I am getting a bit infatuated with him if truth be told. I know, I am probably just being the vulnerable woman now, as going through a difficult divorce, and he is just so nice to me all the time. I think this is skewing my mind really.

I am 46. He is 29. Eeek.

That's not good is it???


RebornSlippy Tue 23-May-17 13:32:56

Well... it's not great, OP. But it doesn't have to be all bad. Depends on what you both want. If he wants you at all. And if you're content to get what you want for now and be prepared if he wants kids for example in the future.

Dunno... I'd be very tempted (in my 40s also) to live a little and have fun. But I also know I'm not a casual kinda woman, so would inevitably end up heartbroken.

What kind of woman are you?

yetmorecrap Tue 23-May-17 13:34:38

Hey , lets face it many 29 year old guys are a damn site more appealing than the average 54 year old and usually less grumpy! If you are free and he is, whats the harm in a bit of flirtation if he is interested !! although I wouldnt necessarily plan a future life in your head at this point. Hopefully you dont work together-- as thats when if it goes wrong it gets awkward

HundredMilesAnHour Tue 23-May-17 13:40:26

Just enjoy his company and go from there. Maybe he'll end up becoming a good friend.

There's nothing wrong with younger friends (obviously if it's more than friendship it may get more complicated!). I'm 47 and met up with a (straight) male friend who's 26 for coffee just this morning. We talked for 1.5 hours (like a pair of gossipy old women!) and only stopped because he had to get back for a personal training client.

Badliar Tue 23-May-17 13:49:56

Oh I agree about older blokes being grumpier. Just see how it goes!

NurseButtercup Tue 23-May-17 13:59:59

Who cares! Let your hair down have some fun, basque in the attention I've got two chasing me at work and pretending to fight over me (22 and 28) and I feel great, it's a massive boost to my confidence. I wouldn't go there because I work with them, but if I did then I know it would be fun for a couple of months.... ...that's what I reckon Madonna, Demi Moore, Joan Collins did etc etc .
Didn't Wendy Deng get herself a very young model after she left Rupert Murdoch? Oh the fun she must have had grin

Carolinethebrave Tue 23-May-17 14:00:35

Does he have children? If not and he wants them then it won't last imho

pudding21 Tue 23-May-17 14:39:07

It sounds like you are having fun. Enjoy it and who cares about his age. Just don't expect to settle down and have a family together, or be prepared if it stops. Open mind smile If you are feeling vulnerable and you are unsure, then perhaps back off a little bit and work on yourself.

One of my best female friends is in a 2 year relationship with a guy 17 years her junior. The are very much in love. No pressure from either side, both eyes wide open.

UpYerGansey Tue 23-May-17 15:42:12

I'm 47 and have been seeing a 33 yo for a year now. It's one of the best relationships I've ever had. He is great. As a pp said, no pressure on either side, take it sloooooow, and enjoy! wink

LoveMyLittleSuperhero Tue 23-May-17 15:48:20

Be careful take it slow and have a go if you want to. If you are both single and he's old enough to be classed as an adult so why not? Live and have fun, age is just a number.

TheNaze73 Tue 23-May-17 15:50:09

Seriously, a good age for him. Not going to be continually banging on about babies all the time, sexual & life experience & will totally know your own mind. You're quite the catch.
Go for it grin

Adora10 Tue 23-May-17 16:04:29

Each to their own and I'd not give a jot about what others thought but not for me, be like dating one of my daughter's friends.

CatThiefKeith Tue 23-May-17 16:14:06

Meh. I'm 43 this year and dh has just turned 32... we do ok.

PsychedelicSheep Tue 23-May-17 16:25:52

If your ages were reversed and he was older then it wouldn't seem as much of a thing. Because sexism.

My DP is 27 and I'm 38. He's the best partner I've ever had by a long way. Of course there's no guarantee it will last, but when is there ever? If you like each other then go for it and good luck to you both!

Motoko Tue 23-May-17 16:33:01

I'm 10 years older than my husband, and one of my friends is 13 years older than her partner.

If he wants a relationship with you, and he's not bothered about having children, go for it!

highlighta Tue 23-May-17 16:56:49

Thanks all, and for making me feel a bit better about it.

He has no children and has never talked of having any, so its not on his top priority at the moment. He came out of a relationship more than 2 years ago and hasn't seen anyone since. So we can relate there as she cheated on him, as my dh did on me.

He just left actually, popped in on his way past doing something for work. Bought me some chocolate grin.

We don't work together, met up through a sports club.

He has what I call an old soul, he isn't the typical single 29 year old that goes clubbing etc. I must say though, at the point in my life I really am not looking for a relationship, but if the opportunity arises here, I think I am going to take it. It is a bit of a morale booster.. grin

Age is just a number is the exact thing he says too....

Have planned to see him Sat night, so will see. The dc will be here too and they all get on. I am really just enjoying his company a lot right now.


HildaOg Tue 23-May-17 17:26:59

Personally I think if they're young enough to have come out of you then they're too young to go inside you...

If you both like each other and want to be together then you're both consenting adults. I can imagine meeting each others friends a bit awkward though. Would you really want to be hanging around with twenty somethings?

Auldspinster Tue 23-May-17 17:35:44

I fancy a 25 year old at work and I'm 42, strictly window shopping shock.

Adora10 Tue 23-May-17 17:38:12

Personally I think if they're young enough to have come out of you then they're too young to go inside you...

Hilda, I love your posts grin

stevie69 Tue 23-May-17 17:43:01

I think it's great. My current eye candy is mid 30s and I'm 50. As someone else said, younger men are just so much more appealing (to me, anyway).

I keep it simple. If we're both adults and both single then it's got f**k all to do with anyone else—although I don't go near their mothers: mums are precious about their boys sometimes shock

ALaughAMinute Tue 23-May-17 17:43:51

He's probably good for a shag or something short-term but I wouldn't pin your hopes too high on him if I were you. Enjoy!

MummysMaison Tue 23-May-17 17:48:48

Go for it! If he makes you happy then I don't see why not. I have an age gap relationship and it's bloody fab!

ITooHaveBeenThere Tue 23-May-17 17:52:22

I'm 42. The man I am currently rather attracted to is 34.

I'm not really sure but I think he might like me...

I usually don't even look at anyone younger than me!

Aquamarine1029 Tue 23-May-17 17:52:38

My husband is 12 years younger than I am. We have been together for eight years, married for six. We have a strong and happy marriage, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. Age is just a number. Yes, he's 29, but he's not a child. He's a grown man who can make his own decisions and he's chosen you!

FelixtheMouse Tue 23-May-17 21:57:18

Same age gap as my grandparents (DGD was the younger). They were married for 38 years.

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