I've obviously namechanged for this as a few of my previous posts are quite identifying.
I've been with my husband for over 10 years, one DS aged 4.
He is suffering from terrible performance anxiety and it's ruining our marriage. He gets turned on but either loses his erection the second he tries to penetrate me, or it goes after a few thrusts.
This isn't constant. Sometimes it's fine but it's so variable my sex drive is dying because I'm sick of being turned on, left frustrated, and then having to comfort him when he's wretched afterwards.
He is an excellent husband otherwise - kind, caring, generous, works hard, fully involved with DS, definitely not having an affair.
We've never set the sheets alight in terms of frequency but when we are 'good' the sex is fantastic. I've usually had the higher drive but it's disappearing.
I love him so much but I can't spend the rest of my life like this. Has anyone been through this and come out the other side?
For full disclosure he said he'd trying to masturbate less and use less porn. I don't think he was ever an addict but I think he's concerned his use is having an effect and has stopped.
Thank you all - I'm heading to work now so replied might take a while but I will be back if anyone is kind enough to comment.
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Husband's performance anxiety is destroying us
Newnamenewproblem · 23/05/2017 08:55
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