A few years ago my DH used to work with a woman. They got on well at work and were quite "close" at work (i.e. they'd ask each other about their partners, holidays, weekend plans etc.). When I say "close" I don't mean anything inappropriate at all but at DH's workplace people didn't really talk about their private lives with each other. That's what I mean by close.
When DH was leaving, he exchanged numbers with this woman and they became friends on FB. She suggested that me/DH and her/her then DP met up and had dinner. We went out once with them for a couple of drinks but her and her DP weren't getting on well so it was all a bit awkward and it didn't happen again.
Anyway, since DH has left this workplace they've stayed in contact. They meet up every few months for a coffee and a catch up. They both work in the same field so have that in common. There are rarely emails in between these catch up but they're friends on FB and comment/like each others stuff (nothing out of the ordinary).
But, over the last few years, there are a few strange things that have happened which makes me think something odd is going on. They're really quite minor things and nothing that would set alarm bells on their own but when you put them altogether something seems odd.
So, first. Every time me and DH have or do something pretty major in our lives, she finds an excuse to text DH. For example, she text him on our wedding day letting him know she might be a bit late, she text him on the day we were flying out for a pretty massive holiday, she text him on the day we signed our papers for our house. It's only once every year or so that it'll happen but it's every time. And the messages will always be quite cryptic so DH has to text back. I feel it's like whenever we have something "sacred" for the two of us, she has to remind DH of her existence.
Then there is the copying me. This sounds bonkers I know but she's copied me quite a few times on really silly things. For example, I put a pink toner on my hair, then she dyed her hair purple. I got my nose pierced, then she her lip pierced. I took up netball, then she took up football. These things will only happen every few months (or whenever I do something quite drastic and copy-able).
Because these things are only happening a few times a year they're not particularly noticeable but when you put them altogether, I can't help but feel something's wrong. My friend thinks she's infatuated with DH. I don't know though.
And what should DH do about it? He hadn't noticed what was going on until I pointed it out to him and then he said it might just be coincidence. But even if it's not, what can he say ("stop copying my DW" sounds nuts).
Sorry for the long post. I'm just mulling this over and I don't feel like I can talk to anyone IRL because it sounds completely mad!
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What is going on with this woman?
MineralWater · 22/05/2017 10:05
FizzyGreen I genuinely don't think DH thought anything was untoward but last week we started our extension on our house and I pointed it out to him. I said to DH "wait for Carole's [not real name] text then" and when he asked what I meant, I said that she'd text on every single major thing we'd ever done and he was like 
"Oh yeah, I guess so but it's just coincidence isn't it?"
Anyway, the text came and I was like "see, see" and I think he did start to think more about it. Anyway, he didn't text back.
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