XH has moved 400 miles away. Is seeing DD less and less and now it's just the school holidays. I keep saying to him it's not enough and that he should find a way to see her at least once a month, but he gives excuses and clearly isn't bothered. He's now saying that he'd like her to do flights alone accompanied by an air steward/ess. Now, his drive to the airport to collect her would be 10 minutes. The departure airport is 60/90 minutes drive or train. I asked him who would be doing the 2 x 2 hour round trips to facilitate this and he replied that this should be taken in the context of more frequent contact (because that's what I have been pressing him for). Now, initially when he left I was rabid (internally) at the thought that he had awarded himself a child-free life but now I've got used to it and just kind of think of her time with him as "respite care" for me. He has always loved to get a rise out of me so since he left I am very careful to not give him satisfaction in this regard. So far I have not responded since he replied to my question. One response I'm considering is "nah can't be bothered" - mainly because it will really shock him because he knows it really hurts me how little he's seeing her and so far I've facilitated his contact to my own detriment (I go out of my way, he is still rude and surly) and it's all on his terms. I'm working and running the home and bringing her up alone and it seems like a cheek to impose this on me. Can I ask you what you think?
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