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Monster mother inlaw and her relatives wedding HELP ASAP!

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MagicalMum2 Tue 16-May-17 23:16:48

I recently had received a wedding invite from my husbands cousin he knows we have been married for 25 years but only addressed the invitation to my husband and didn't even acknowledge me or my children, just simply put 4 reserved seats on it. I know it was done with ill intentions because my mother in law and her relatives have always bullied me and did it to offend me. So my husband politely emailed him to tell him he was offended and his cousin wrote back and insulted my husband and me and my CHILDREN when all we wanted was an apology.Then in the same email my husbands cousin proceeded to UNINVITE all of us from the wedding. How would you feel and react if someone did this to you? Any replies are appreciated.

travailtotravel Tue 16-May-17 23:19:56

Meh. You don't need to go and get that nonsense. They've saved you having to bother to decline.

Mummymoanasaurus Tue 16-May-17 23:20:58

I'd think thank god I didn't have to go!

Materdolores Tue 16-May-17 23:21:09

Ignore the cousin.
Are you sure your MIL's hand is behind this? Is it really such a big deal that your name was left off the invitation as you and your dc were included?

offblackeggshell Tue 16-May-17 23:23:14

Assuming you only have two children, it sounds lazy rather than malicious (not to say your MIL isn't malicious, just the cousin). If you have more than 2 DC, then it's pretty horrible.

MagicalMum2 Tue 16-May-17 23:34:12

Thank you for your replies i think your right i dodged a bullet there, but I do still feel a bit upset that he had to make it into an argument and make a big deal over it he could have just said sorry and that he didn't do it intentionally. Especially as he insulted my children,we were thinking of emailing him back to tell him that we don't want anything to do with him anymore because he has never respected or accepted me and my husband as a couple. What are your views on emailing him back?

MrsBertBibby Tue 16-May-17 23:36:08

Have someone put a horse's head in his bed. Nothing else will suffice.

MagicalMum2 Tue 16-May-17 23:39:02

Good idea that will teach him

peukpokicuzo Tue 16-May-17 23:39:41

Bloody he'll you sound like hard work. Who writes to say they are offended on receiving an invitation? You want them to beg and entreat you to come?

If you love the happy couple and wish them well and want you share in celebrating their wedding day then it really doesn't matter what they write on the invitations. God knows it's difficult enough to sort out invites.

If you barely know them and they barely know you then do everyone a favour and politely decline without histrionics.

ohfourfoxache Tue 16-May-17 23:39:43

Maintain a dignified silence and cut the (all) fuckers off.

Life is too short for shit.

mydogmymate Tue 16-May-17 23:41:33

I wouldn't bother emailing back, they'll always stick to their guns about being in the right whatever you do. You can't argue with stupid

PeachyPip Tue 16-May-17 23:42:16

I wouldn't be bothered. You didn't like them and they didn't like you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dont fuel the drama by carrying on with the emails though. I'd just forget about it and get on with life. I'd leave your DH to deal,with them in future.

MagicalMum2 Tue 16-May-17 23:42:28

Also when he sent my husband the email he put captain before his name and the full name of the company he works for but it's not an established company at all i am not sure what his point was for doing this because he is not even a captain?

Materdolores Tue 16-May-17 23:45:54

Er, maybe you are becoming a little melodramatic?

aurynne Tue 16-May-17 23:50:27

To be honest, it sounds to me you're as bad as each other.

MagicalMum2 Tue 16-May-17 23:51:20

I have decided to just cut them all off because they are all as shit as each other and we are better off without them.Good riddance I say!

Aquamarine1029 Wed 17-May-17 00:10:15

I wouldn't waste one second give a single fuck about those people. Life is too short. Lucky you that you don't have to go to a dumb wedding!

TheNaze73 Wed 17-May-17 08:13:11

I think you & the captain have had a result.
I'd mark the day by doing something nice with all the money you've saved from attending the wedding

Nicole69 Wed 17-May-17 10:08:22

What did they say that insulted your children?

steppemum Wed 17-May-17 10:22:29

well, your husband was being melodramatic writing emails about how offended he was, which has started this whole drama.

What should have happened - you receive an invite, you decide you want to go or don't want to do, you reply. If the fact that he is being horrible over the addressing of the invite is enough to make you not want to go, fair enough, don't go.

The rest sounds like kids squabbling

contrary13 Wed 17-May-17 14:18:00

I don't know the names of all my cousins spouses, or how many children they have/their children's names. The ones I'm closest to? Yep, I know those names, because we have a relationship. But the ones who I didn't grow up with/there's a large age gap between us/they live in another country... haven't a clue. I was quite bewildered a few months ago when I was informed that my 68 year old cousin has cancer. Turns out that she's actually my mother's cousin, so... my cousin once removed (I think). Perhaps this cousin isn't so closely related to your husband as you've been led to believe, or simply isn't close to him at all.

Although I guess it's a moot point now you've behaved like a petulant toddler. Because that bridge has been well and truly burned... by you/your husband (who I suspect was simply doing as he'd been told to, by you), incidentally, not your MIL.

NellieFiveBellies Wed 17-May-17 14:21:55

he addressed it to your husband but extended the invitation to all of you.
i really dont think it was a big deal tbh.
however, you have now got what you wanted so result for you i guess.

SandyY2K Wed 17-May-17 16:21:54

He could have addressed it as Mr and Mrs xyz and children in the invite.

These are the kind of people you don't need in your life.

Notalotterywinner Wed 17-May-17 22:27:15

How did he insult your children?

MovingtoParadise Wed 17-May-17 22:36:29

There is no way to politely email someone to tell them they've offended you when they've invited you to their wedding

Utterly stupid.

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