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Anyone walked away from a perfectly good marriage?

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biggesttwuntinhistory Tue 16-May-17 20:25:03

I live and work with my husband and his family. I enjoy my work and I love my husband....but I just want to be on my own. I feel completely choked and trapped in this situation, esp as we have a DD together. He doesn't want to move and doesn't drive.

I just want to do things MY way. I enjoyed being single. I think I'd be the biggest most ungrateful cunt ever to 'walk out' though. It's not as if I'd never want anything to do with my husband again, but that kind of set up isn't really a thing is it sad

I've been thinking this way for years though and I've had a lot of health problems which have all been finally put down to stress. Now I'm experiencing a massive low again because I just want my own place.

So yeah, has anyone ever done this? :/

BluePeppers Tue 16-May-17 20:26:45

Is the issue his family a rather than him? So in effect, if you wer with your dd and your DH in your own, would that be OK?

PurpleDaisies Tue 16-May-17 20:30:12

I can understand why you're feeling claustrophobic. Does your husband know how seriously unhappy you are? I can't think of many marriages that could cope with living and working together all day every day.

Could you look for another job and see if that helps things? It sounds like you need much more independence than you've got now. That might be a divorce but there could be a mid point between what you've got now and that where you'll be happy.

biggesttwuntinhistory Tue 16-May-17 20:44:22

Yes I think if it was just me and him it would be better for me, but he doesn't see it that way, he's very rooted here.

I've worked elsewhere before and it was OK, but since DD it's just heeeeaped stress on me to do it, I'm under subtle and not so subtle pressure from family members to be a stepford wife or something and even though I call them out on it, the pressure remains... I think more formal arrangements between me and DH and childcare etc would really help.

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