I've posted about this before, although things have no taken a vey bad turn.
Here's a quick recap......
(DP and his ex wife have a 3 year old child. They separated when their child was newborn. Ex wife has mental health issues which she is medicated for and a history of violence and drug abuse but had appeared to have left that in the past. She had been on the straight and narrow since her and DP got together.
DP's child spends every weekend with us. I have DC from a previous marriage and we have a baby of our own.
A couple of years ago ex wife got a new partner. DP wanted to meet him if he was going to be spending time around his child but ex wife refused. I came on mums for advice and was told that it was none of DP's business and he was controlling for wanting to meet this new man. He never met him.
So yesterday DP received an email from ex wife partner. He said that ex is selling herself for cocaine, had a threesome which was filmed and her child walked in during it, that his child was taken to hospital for swallowing cocaine and a few more horror stories.
DP immediately went to fetch his child without telling the mother what it was about. His ex then sends DP a barrage of messages saying that the police are involved and that he has a history of violence, firearms offences, robbery and burglary and has been to prison while they were together......)
So fast forward a month. DP returned his child to the mother 2 weeks ago as she had moved up north and was staying with her parents. He didn't want to withhold her without a court order.
His ex is now refusing to allow access saying she doesn't trust him.
We sought legal advice. The solicitor said first port of call was the police and SS. The police carrie out a welfare check and apparently all was well.
Much to our horror after contacting SS we were told his child had had a welfare case open since AUGUST LAST YEAR and no one had thought to inform her father!!! Apparently it was to do with the mother's partner. She was told that if she continued to have a relationship with this man her child would be taken into care. She had to report to a centre regularly with her child so they could see she wasn't harmed....
Just absolutely shocked SS didn't contact us.
DP contacted the mothers partner yesterday and he has sent evidence that they were still in a relationship and smoking cannabis regularly up until a few months ago.
We want to ty and get an emergency residence order and are going to court on Thursday.
Any advice please?
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