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Single mums get a 'night off' - no-one to go out with!

(22 Posts)
middlesis Tue 16-May-17 12:45:54

I'd like to get a little feedback here and see if anyone has a similar issue. I've been separated from my husband for 2 years and he lives quite far away so my children go to him once a month (approx.). Although I have great friends and a busy life, I often find that when I'm free on my one weekend a month, they are all busy with their own families, husbands, friends etc. I don't want to trawl through internet dating and all that entails nor do I want to sit in on a Saturday night (which I do all the other weekends with my kids) . I wondered if there are any networks which connect mums interested in a night out with like-minded women, or, if there was - would anyone be interested in that? I'm imaging a grown-up version of the 'Mush' app where you check what's going on near you on a Saturday night, if you're free, and join in. Any thoughts?

yummytummy Tue 16-May-17 13:56:44

Hi I would love something like that. I have similar issues on weekends when all friends busy with families. Whereabouts are you based?

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Tue 16-May-17 13:58:23

Sounds like a good reason to leave dh to some quality dc time!!

Boooring Tue 16-May-17 13:59:41

That would be ideal for me.

middlesis Tue 16-May-17 14:16:34

Glad to see I'm not alone! And the added problem is that I don't always know what dates I'm free until a few weeks before, or less, so it's hard to plan. if a lot of women were in the same boat it would be good to be able to link up with locals and see who's free on the same night (maybe via a Facebook page, for example). I'm in Glasgow, but I'm guessing that there are plenty of others in my city and around the UK who are in the same boat.

Notthecarwashagain Tue 16-May-17 14:20:52

I'd love something like that!

Dudette29 Tue 16-May-17 16:53:48

I think this is a great idea! My little one starts going to her dads overnight next month and I'm thinking what I can do to keep busy. My friends all have their own families, so nights out are planned out with military precision and way in advance. Something like this would be ideal!

Boooring Tue 16-May-17 16:54:52

I'm far too old to go out clubbing but I would love a night out on the town!

middlesis Tue 16-May-17 17:15:53

It's certainly a better alternative to hooking up with some random man off a dating site just to go out for a nice meal and a conversation.

Stuck16 Tue 16-May-17 17:16:18

What a crackin idea!! I'd love something like that- I have very few friends where I live and they all have families and husbands etc

Afterthestorm Tue 16-May-17 18:44:43

Look up Meet-Up.com. There are loads of different groups around with varying interests, from very specific ones such as Vegan eaters who like photography in Torbay for example, to general groups who do a wide range of social things together. I've never been to one yet as I am either busy or pleased to have some time to myself (or have a man in tow) but certainly would if I was bored.

middlesis Tue 16-May-17 19:40:01

Yes, I looked at meet up before but it didn't quite fit the bill but that could just be in my area. It works more on organised events. I was thinking of something a bit less rigid.

Lithlingow Tue 16-May-17 20:36:06

I'm in! 😊

BitchQueen90 Tue 16-May-17 20:40:59

I'd be up for something like this, I never have anyone to go out with when I get a rare child free night!

Billybumbler Tue 16-May-17 23:37:36

This is a great idea! I'm a single parent as well and so not interested in having to deal with awkward dates just to get a night out. I'm in Glasgow too smile

Doneitagain1968 Wed 17-May-17 00:19:46

Brilliant idea smilewinewine

middlesis Wed 17-May-17 16:47:06

Encouraging to know that there is interest. I'm going to have a think about this and will hopefully come back with some suggestions. But thanks for all the comments.

NotJanine Wed 17-May-17 17:22:54

I was going to suggest meetup too. If there isn't anything going on in your area then add it yourself.

I joined a group, attended a few meets and am now adding my own events for times I want to go out.

alicemalice Wed 17-May-17 17:26:13

Citysocializer is good too.

Plus have met single mums on Mush to go out and have a drink with (when calendars coincide).

middlesis Wed 17-May-17 20:38:30

Yes, Mush looks great but my kids are passed the playground age so I'm kind of out of that loop. Kids are old enough now that I feel I can get a bit of my life back. I don't think I would have had the energy when they were small.

middlesis Wed 17-May-17 22:17:30

I checked out Citysocializer but seemed like it was a younger crowd and with quite a lot of older, creepy mem - the kind you want to avoid on dating sites. Has anyone tried it? Any good?

Disappointednomore Wed 17-May-17 22:21:57

I'd be keen to try something like this too.

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