And I'm not sure I do either...
My DP always got on brilliantly with my daughter from the word go, she absolutely loved him to bits and he could do no wrong. Fast forward a few years and a baby sister later and she isn't so impressed. Today broke my heart because she said he makes her sad all the time :(
This came about because she can be a bit slow in the morning getting ready for school (show me a 5 years old who isn't!) and he was giving her a hard time about hurrying up. Recently he just seems to be on her case all the time, and mine to some extent, and it's getting us down.
I'm not sure what his problem is. We have been arguing more lately (when my eldest is out) so I know he has issues with me not being affectionate enough towards him at the moment and apparently that makes him feel unloved. I explained this because I've barely slept in ten months and have also been breastfeeding for the same length of time. He insisted it isn't sex, it's the day to day affection that he is missing. Problem is I just don't feel that way inclined at the moment. He's becoming fairly unpleasant to live with, as he's moody and stressed fairly often, and while I can deal with him being an annoying twat sometimes, my eldest shouldn't feel this way and I'm at a loss as to what to do about it.
He is besotted with our baby daughter, absolutely over the moon to be a dad and I'm wondering if he is perhaps neglecting my eldest because he is now a father or something. Either that or he's taking some frustration out on us. I really don't know what to do but I grew up with a step-dad I despised and I don't want my daughter to have to go through the same thing. She is a very sensitive girl and he used to be so patient with her but not any more it seems. I'm not saying I'm perfect, everyone loses their patience sometimes but it seems to be that she does something wrong every day at the moment.
I did speak to him about it a while ago and he really made an effort for a while but now it's gone back to him being annoyed all the time.
Any advice on how to proceed would be great. Thanks in advance.
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My 5 year old says she doesn't like her step-dad any more :(
OhWhatAPalaver · 16/05/2017 11:49
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