My DH is u/e and looking for work. He's looking at places away from where we live. Not commutable. If he gets a job it will be well paid, where he's looking I'd be unlikely to get a job as well paid as the one I have.
I know he needs to find a job and the job market is really limited where we live.
On the other hand I earn £50K a year, have a really good pension, and like where we live. I'm settled here, have friends and his family is an amazing support.
I feel like I'd just be trailing along and leaving my career and prospects because he needs work.
Aaargh - I feel like I'm trying to be positive but inside I'm thinking 'but what about me!'.
Stay where you are. Does he drive? How far does he need to travel for work? What days would he be working? He could stay away for the working week to start if employment opportunities are so far away. You can't give up your job and pension. Just don't.
Do you have children, or plan to? I would not want to give up a decent support network and good job either. Would you be OK with him working away during the week? Could he commute with the aim of asking his employer for one or two work from home days once he's settled in to a new job?
Why is your jib and your career prospect notbas I partant as his? I getvthat finding a job for two people who are highly qualified is hard. And something has to give, sometimes. However, I'm not sure it should be you by default wo any discussion on other alternatives.
YY about him works away during the week and coming back home at weekends... Is it likely to be one of those jobs where he is y back home until 7.00 or 8.00pm anyway?
OP--stay put!! You earn enough that many families would love to live on. You run the risk of you ending up with the shit job. If its that well paid he can surely do a Monday to Friday let (tons of them around) --and maybe if its that good a job he can maybe do Fridays at home even and drive back Thursday eveings (I know 2 people who do just this, drive up early on a Monday and come back Thursday night)
Imagine if it was the other way around and he had a well paid job here and yous aid, I need to look elsewhere so we all have to move, it wouldnt happen , would it!!