I am in a lovely new relationship of 7 months and completely in love with SO. I booked a summer holiday for us to go together and he seems happy and excited about it. However, yesterday he said that next year he is going for a holiday with his friends (one male and one female). I was taken aback because my first thought had been to go on holiday together not separately, which is why I booked the summer break for us. We have been together on beautiful weekends away and see each other 3-4 times per week. I know everyone is different but am wondering why I am feeling hurt that he would not even ask if I would like to go on holiday with him, at least out of courtesy. He has gone on holiday before with the same (best) friends just a month after we met but this had been booked long before we met so of course I did not think anything of it and wished him a great holiday. We messages and skyped regularly when he was away because we both missed each other. Recently he has told me that 'people' come and go but friends and family are forever. This statement, coupled with a string of several 1-year relationships he has had makes me think that he may be afraid of commitment and is simply going round the same circles with each new relationship, afraid to commit from fear of being hurt and not really giving the new relationship a chance. I would be so grateful if anyone offers their opinion because I know I have probably been over thinking about this- everything else seems absolutely fine, he calls or messages every day, he has asked me to bring some clothes to his place and has introduced me to some of his friends and family (but not the ones he is travelling with). What should I make of this, if anything?
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Am i wrong to be upset if SO goes on holiday without inviting me?
dayandnight123 · 15/05/2017 23:19
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