Long story short....
Was married 5 years. Divorced last Dec. Ex currently in prison for fraud. Release date this August. Narcissistic manipulative deceitful person. Caused me years of severe anxiety. I am a high earning legal professional... the shame :(
We have two children - 3 and 8.
When I finally managed to leave him it was for someone else. This gave me the strength I needed. He got very abusive and sent me pages and pages of handwritten hate mail (saying I may as well be dead). That relationship didn't work out.
But now I've met someone and it's very different. I feel... love. For the first time in as long as I can remember. Possibly, ever. He is about to meet the children. I feel I need to tell ex-H this despite where he is. But I'm scared because of what happened before. He made me ill with anxiety which maybe sounds silly. The other issue is new man is police... Ex is going to hate this. It will drive him insane. I think he'll feel his power - psychological power, that he perhaps feels he still has - fade away. I'm fearing more hate mail.
I feel I need some sort of help too with the new relationship. My trust is so shattered. Do you think counselling would be a good idea?
Sorry so much going on here. I've just kind of blurted it all out!!
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Scared to tell ex-H about new partner
pourjudgment · 14/05/2017 12:59
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