I have no advice I'm afraid, but keep strong. Some men ARE shits, not all, but definitely sounds like yours is. Am here holding your hand, OP. Do you have an official arrangement in place? Can he just randomly stop paying you maintenance?
Wow, Attila, do you think I'd be within my rights to do that?! It's strange that you should say that when I haven't even mentioned any of the disgusting abuse he put me through for years. And yes, I can see exactly where he gets it from. I never had to agree that she supervised contact, but they act like they're doing me a massive favour by taking the children
If he's not paying maintenance he has no right to see the children then surely??? It sounds like they would be better off without him. Keep chasing for the money though, you need that for your children.
Refuse him and his family access if they contact you.
I don't think courts see it like that, isit when we first left, before contact was supervised and before I had contacted the CMS, I handed the DC over to him with a smile and a polite "hello" with us both knowing full well that he hadn't paid maintenance the previous day
Well let him take you to court then...... they will take a dim view of his lack of payments and his behaviour. Will he be prepared to pay a solicitor to take you to court? If not, of course you can stop him seeing the children.
I very much doubt he would pay a solicitor! He got rid of his car because he couldn't pay the finance, obviously doesn't pay maintenance, he's in a lot of debt basically. And I'm sure he'd rather spend his money on drink and drugs!
IME, family courts don't give a rats ass about child maintenance, whether he's paid or not or what his previous behaviour to the resident parent was, all they care about is that the child is given the opportunity to see the non resident parent. They will bend over backwards to accommodate the non resident parent to ensure the children have that opportunity. If the NRP fails to adhere to the court ordered contact, there's little the court will do about it except to arrange further contact that suits the NRP. In your case OP, I wouldn't go to court. It will only mean you will then be responsible by law for presenting the children to the NRP whenever you've agreed with the court that you will. The NRP OTOH won't be held responsible for turning up or adhering to contact. However, I would get the maintenance dealt with formally. It can be very difficult to get an unwilling NRP to pay maintenance but at the moment, you have no maintenance at all coming in.