We've been married for 16 years and have one teen DD. It's not been good for some time (have posted on here many times for advice) but the last 6 months have been dreadful and it all came to a head last night.
Nobody's really in the wrong - no cheating or abuse, just what each of us sees as unreasonable behaviour from the other and a feeling that we're like mates at best these days. Don't see any point in counselling, I think we've reached the end of the line.
I think we need a break to decide whether this really is the end. Trouble is H doesn't see why he should move out - he seems more concerned about losing his rights to the house than the potential end of our marriage. But DD wants to be with me so we need to stay here - it's on the school bus route, her job and friends are here. I'd happily rent somewhere but it's a tiny village and there's rarely anything available. So I need to persuade H that him moving out for the time being would be best for all of us.
I've been desperate for this to happen because we badly need some time apart but now it has I feel both sad and terrified. But I need to be strong and sensible for DD and think practically about our future. If H leaves I can just about cover the mortgage and outgoings myself. I don't know if he'd be able to afford to pay me anything for DD and rent as well.
Any advice on what to do - practically and emotionally - to try and make this as painless for all of us as possible?
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Think my marriage is ending, what do I do now?
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GinsnRoses · 14/05/2017 07:06
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