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Anyone up? Please hold my hand

(35 Posts)
Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 00:56:00

I'm struggling.

always2ndbest Sun 14-May-17 00:57:32

What's wrong.... <<holds hand>>

Zoflorabore Sun 14-May-17 00:58:14

Are you ok op? I'm listening if you need to talk flowers

Gingerbreadmam Sun 14-May-17 00:58:36

im here too!

Crapcrapcrap0 Sun 14-May-17 00:59:31

I'm here to!

anxiousnow Sun 14-May-17 01:00:23

What are you struggling with Tired, here to hold hand

Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 01:05:44

Thank you.

Separated from my DP and now living in separate places. I have a 1 year old baby.

I am feeling so alone.

Whywaitfortomorrow Sun 14-May-17 01:13:55

I'm here too if you need to talk

Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 01:16:09

Just feeling desperately low and that I can't go on.

Lessthanaballpark Sun 14-May-17 01:16:37

What you're feeling is so natural. Bringing up a baby in isolation is not an easy thing to do.

Do you have any mother / baby groups you could go to?

anxiousnow Sun 14-May-17 01:20:08

Sorry you are feeling like that tired. You can go on. Your baby needs you. How long ago did you separate?

Lupinhere37 Sun 14-May-17 01:21:15

Oh op, that must be so hard for you....I'm not surprised you're struggling. Give us some more information so that we can see if we can help. Do you help any help in real life? Family or friends to give you practical help and emotional support?

Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 01:27:55

I've got no family here and they are not supportive anyway. I have a few friends but no really close friends live here either.

I don't think I can keep going.

MakeLemonade Sun 14-May-17 01:28:47

It sounds really tough but you can absolutely do this. It will get better, but it will take time, I promise you will be OK.

MakeLemonade Sun 14-May-17 01:30:45

The samaritans are always there to chat on the phone or via email, you don't have to deal with this alone.

Agerbilatemycardigan Sun 14-May-17 01:33:11

You can and you will OP. You've got more strength than you realise and you will survive. I'm older than you and have had many times when I was ready to give up, but I kept on going for my children and you will too. This too shall pass as a certain famous wizard once said 🙂

Lupinhere37 Sun 14-May-17 01:38:45

You can do this; you really can. You will be amazed at the strength you can draw upon for your little one. Have you told your baby's father how you are feeling and would he step up if he knew?
Please call your health visitor and GP for an appt on Monday and tell them what you've told us. Ask the receptionist for an urgent appointment as it is urgent if you're feeling this low.
Do you have to stay living where you are or can you move any closer to any of your friends?

Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 01:43:25

I just feel like every day is a struggle.

Lessthanaballpark Sun 14-May-17 01:43:45

The thing is OP I used to feel like you. I was separated with very little money and a baby in a series of flats that were crazy expensive.

It was so hard and sometimes it feels like you're a prisoner in your own home because your world feels so small and any contact with adults in the outside world is on a superficial level. Plus you're a mess of emotions you've never felt before.
That's certainly how it was for me.

But things got easier as DS got older, easier to manage and as I got the confidence to venture out again. Now, life is great.

Sometimes I look back on those days and wonder how I got through it.

But I did. And so will you. I promise. flowers

anxiousnow Sun 14-May-17 01:48:29

It is hard tired and can feel overwhelming but it will get better. If you baby is only one then assume the separation is recent. The pain of this will ease and things will become less of a struggle. There are lots of ways to make new friends with a baby. Please speak to your health visitor or gp Monday and use the samaritans as suggested above.

Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 01:51:12

lessthanaballpark that's exactly how I feel

RoseOfSharyn Sun 14-May-17 01:54:54

OP, I'm also a single mum. I have 3 DC under 4. I'm not going to bore you with my story but I can honestly say I get it....

Please talk to us. Mumsnet has been the only thing that has kept me sane at certain points.


Tiredofstruggling1 Sun 14-May-17 01:55:49

Thank you all for the kind words of support.

RoseOfSharyn Sun 14-May-17 01:56:37

lessthan amazing comment! You summed up what my wine-addled brain could not articulate.

Lessthanaballpark Sun 14-May-17 01:58:13

Tired at least you haven't done what I did because I was so desperate for some company - get back with the ex! It was a monumental disaster blush confused

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