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You were all right... I'm going to leave him but how do you deal with the aftermath?

(11 Posts)
sammyjayneexx Sat 13-May-17 23:52:51

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Costacoffeeplease Sun 14-May-17 00:11:06

What is your financial/housing situation. Is there anyone who can help? Women's aid?

You're right he's not going to change, not if you stay for fifty years

MumIsRunningAMarathon Sun 14-May-17 00:13:41

He's out doing his own thing. That's fine isn't it? You've 'checked out' of this relationship now

A hotel stay? Well he can do as he likes.

So how are the council involved here? Whose tenancy is it?

sammyjayneexx Sun 14-May-17 00:15:58

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Neverknowing Sun 14-May-17 00:59:47

Are you on the tenancy? If so could you not ask him to leave? It's unlikely he'll be able to keep the house without you and DC if it's a council place anyway.
Well done btw. Please don't go back on this, you and your DC deserve better!

ICESTAR Sun 14-May-17 09:26:32

Bag up his things and leave them for him outside. Tell him he can stay in a hotel bow whenever he wants. What an arsehole. Hope you're okay sammy.

ICESTAR Sun 14-May-17 09:26:49

Now not bow* sorry

MumIsRunningAMarathon Sun 14-May-17 19:10:01

He can do what he loves he's because you have now realised what a shot he is and you are leaving him.....has he gone now?

Offred Sun 14-May-17 19:15:17

Don't do anything in haste.

It is hard to see how moving somewhere else will help your mental health TBH. Only do it if you actually need to. Council/housing association properties are rare as hen's teeth too.

Who is on the tenancy?

And yes it is shit that he hasn't told you about the hotel but he has only done that in order to get this reaction out of you. Don't play along. It really doesn't matter at this stage.

frauleinsallybowles Sun 14-May-17 19:27:12

are you ok sammie?

happypoobum Sun 14-May-17 19:42:46

I don't think it's your home you need to get away from, it's him.

Have you seen your GP about your mental health?


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