We have two children 8 and 12. I have had a lot of pelvic and emergency surgery. Been advised any further pregnancies would be dangerous.
It's affecting our sex life. I have been to a specialist gynae doc who advised the mirena but I read it could cause complications in those with lots of scar tissue internally (have a retroverted womb and it is 'pinned down with scar tissue' as the doc says) anyway the options were the mini pill and the injection. I went for the mini pill.
I'm finding I'm avoiding sex for the two reasons - pain and also worry about pregnancy. I guess the answer may be to also use condoms or DH to get the snip. Not sure.
It's just all so un-sexy. I wonder if I'm being OTT about the pregnancy risk. In the letter the gynae doc mentioned due to the loss of small bowel I have had it might not be absorbed properly, but we discussed it and my periods have stopped so think it probably is. I'm 40 now and also with the internal scar tissue probably any ovulation wouldn't progress to the womb anyway- such scar tissue can be a cause of infertility.
I know any pregnancy would result in an abortion (early hopefully) or a c-section which would be difficult due to all the surgery, and a potential risk of small bowel obstruction during pregnancy. They said an obstetrician and surgeon would have to be involved.
It feels like sex is now a thing to be feared and I think of all the surgery etc and it's become sort of associated. has anyone anything similar- people who have had pelvic or c-section surgery perhaps.
How safe is the mini pill I wonder. My concern is, as it stops the periods, it may be possible to be pregnant and think the periods are stopped due to the pill. Obviously not atm due to lack of sex. DH has IBD (inflammatory bowel disease). so that obviously affects things as well.
Maybe I should try the injection or implant instead. I think they said something about osteoporosis though.
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LovelyBath77 · 13/05/2017 08:08
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