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How would you feel if

(14 Posts)
ziggy1986 Sat 13-May-17 01:25:21

A close friend got a job working directly with you.

Worried it might spoil the friendship.

anon1987 Sat 13-May-17 01:28:41

For me personally it would make work a more fun and nice place to go.
You could have lunch together, share the car journey and give each other moral support throughout the day.

MrsELM21 Sat 13-May-17 02:07:19

This happened to me, fortunately my friend was the person who suggested me for the job so I'm 'the newbie' rather than the 'host' if you see what I mean!

On the whole it's great and we've done it for 2+ years now, yes there are times when you can get on each other's nerves but isn't that the same with all colleagues, but for us it's worked out really well.

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 13-May-17 02:09:36

It would depend on the friend and the job!

junebirthdaygirl Sat 13-May-17 03:19:42

I wouldnt really like it as l go into a world of my own at work..teaching l would find it difficult l think to have that interupted. But lm sure l would adjust. I love to kep my work like separate

CosyPinkBlanket Sat 13-May-17 10:50:22

I'm about to find out as I start back after mat leave and going into the team my friend works in. I'm thinking it will all be good as long as I'm not working for her as that may make being friends outside work awkward.

ziggy1986 Sat 13-May-17 12:00:11

I wouldn't be working for her but she is very much giving the impression she would be moving with a view to being promoted above me (despite us have equivalent experience etc).

I'm just a bit hmm

But equally feel like a cow because it's probably a good move for her.

Cricrichan Sat 13-May-17 12:04:51

It depends on the friend and your roles. It could be tricky if you think they're not pulling their weight but if they're good workers then it's great.

Changedname3456 Sat 13-May-17 17:47:49

I recommended a good friend for a job at work. That person didn't pick up the job very well and (imo) stopped trying and started coasting. I found that embarrassing, because of the recommendation, and I'd think really hard before doing it again. I really hadn't thought they were that sort of person.

BlahBlahBlahEtc Sat 13-May-17 17:51:22

I got my friend a job once (working together obv). I will never ever do it again.

ziggy1986 Sat 13-May-17 21:32:35

Blahblah what happened?

It's not that I think she won't do a good job. It's that I think she is going to block my career prospects (potentially) and also that I think it will affect the friendship.

darkhorse85 Sat 13-May-17 21:41:39

I would feel a bit miffed to be honest. Will you be at the same level and at any point would you be competing with each other?

The other way round as I met my best friend at work but it did sometimes cause an odd dynamic when one of us got a promotion, pay rise etc.

We don't work together any more and although we used to have a lot of fun, I think it's done our friendship good.

darkhorse85 Sat 13-May-17 21:42:13

Sorry cross post.

In that case, yes I would be annoyed.

ziggy1986 Sat 13-May-17 23:58:26

So essentially we are at exactly the same stage.

Currently we are paid roughly the same. However I assume if she moves to my place of work she will be doing so on the basis she will get a pay rise and be paid more.

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