regular but NC for this.
I'm a lp but exh has EOW. Very selfish/difficult man who left me for OW when dcs little. So I've done a lot of years on my own, and have no extended family and an abusive background, alcoholic parent etc.
It hasn't been easy but just recently feels worse and now I feel a bit lost as to what I'm meant to be doing. Two teen dcs the eldest 15 is very low really, negative body image, some ocd tendencies, I'm worried about her. Have taken her to the GP but its up to her to decide whether to get counselling they said.
She's up and down, more down after been to exh house I think. Plus she's on social media a lot. Exh oblivious to any problems. I don't speak to him much as its too difficult to. I try to keep neutral obviously, when talking to dcs about their dad.
I feel like now I'm just not sure what I'm meant to be doing. My experiences at that age were more a survival technique iyswim and I was lucky to get through it intact- I didn't have any guidance or actual parenting (had years of counselling as an adult)
I have a good relationship with dd and she does talk to me. I'm just worried I guess, that she seems to find life so hard and I can't really do anything to help. I encourage her to have a social life but she doesn't really, and doesn't have interests. But I can't make her do things by this age.
Sorry its so long but any advice or insights are welcome, I spend lots of time worrying, with it just all going round in my head.
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I don't know what I'm doing with parenting teens
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mrsbakedpotato · 09/05/2017 21:41
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