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Please tell me it'll be okay

(35 Posts)
glasshill Fri 05-May-17 23:41:31

I'm leaving my husband of 25 years and taking the children: a planned escape after 25 years of abuse. I go on Monday. Please tell me it will be okay. I wasn't built to be on my own and I'm so worried about what the future holds.

DungballInADress Fri 05-May-17 23:44:51

Oh OP. Holding your hand. It will be OK. Make the decision and go with it. It will be hard at first but you owe this to you and DC. Keep us posted

CelestialFox Fri 05-May-17 23:45:26

It's going to be okay flowers

timeisnotaline Fri 05-May-17 23:45:45

You won't regret it op.

9unctured6icycle Fri 05-May-17 23:45:57

Holy moly, well done you. What an excellent brave decision. You will not regret being free of the abuse.

You don't have to be on your own, there are a lot of people in your situation who would understand and support you. Will you be near some source of support (friends, family, domestic violence shelter etc)?

Hats off to you, you're doing the right thing. flowers

OhTheRoses Fri 05-May-17 23:46:15

It's going to be better. Good luckflowers

scoobydoo1971 Fri 05-May-17 23:47:14

You are brave and not alone, you have your children. Good luck x

LanaDReye Fri 05-May-17 23:48:13

A new life awaits. Yes you'll need time to adjust and there will be anxious moments, but enjoy the moments of euphoria of freedom. Keep the vision of where you want to be alive and ignore the pot holes along the way.

maras2 Fri 05-May-17 23:52:27

Best of luck, glass
The maras clan are routing for you.
I'm here all night for a brew or gin or just a handhold.
You are a brave woman.

glasshill Fri 05-May-17 23:57:49

Thank you so much, last minute nerves I think - feels like a long weekend ahead.

LittleNellsDog Sat 06-May-17 00:07:13

You WILL be OK, I left my abusive ex years ago, best thing I've ever done.

KindDogsTail Sat 06-May-17 00:09:56

How wonderful that you are doing it. You will be OK.

Destinysdaughter Sat 06-May-17 00:14:37

Have you got somewhere safe to stay OP?

ohfourfoxache Sat 06-May-17 00:30:00

Oh that is fantastic news. Huge congratulations: you are going to be so much happier than you are now thanks

Mu123 Sat 06-May-17 00:33:46

Best of luck to you op, remember to clear your browsing history if nec.

toffeeboffin Sat 06-May-17 00:34:38

Holding hands.

We're here for you, Glass flowerscake

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Sat 06-May-17 00:49:48

It will be better than ok and you won't be alone. You'll have your children and the chance to make a new life full of friends and happiness.

Do make sure you delete your browser history and all the luck to you. You are being very brave.

Creampastry Sat 06-May-17 07:04:16

Good luck. Sounds like you e been planning this and have got everything arranged. Congrats on Tuesday .... the first day of your new life!

BeachysSandyFlipflops Thu 11-May-17 13:32:23

How are you, @glasshill ? I've been thinking of you this week.

yetmorecrap Thu 11-May-17 14:35:35

It will be ok !! In my first marriage I left after 9 years, was planned. I was petrified, within 3 months I was seeing someone else (didnt work out but certainly took the edge off the loneliness and upset) , so was my exH (so much for he couldnt live without me) -- seriously I found the thought of it was much worse than the reality.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Thu 11-May-17 14:38:47

I left exh ten years ago this month. .
Looking back I am so proud of myself. .
All mners are proud of you too op. flowers

SillyLittleBiscuit Thu 11-May-17 15:00:03

It's going to be more than ok. You're going to be free and happy. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you're new life is everything you hope it is.

GreyRock Thu 11-May-17 16:30:34


glasshill Thu 11-May-17 18:12:33

@BeachysSandyFlipFlops and all you lovely kind people - today I went out and I didn't ask permission from anyone first! I feel free.

DancingLedge Thu 11-May-17 18:16:04


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